Lesbian Visibility Week was originally celebrated in California in 1990, and since then it has been an annual celebration of identity, community, culture and progress.
In 2020, Linda Riley, publisher of Diva magazine, began a new Lesbian Visibility Week.
Susan B Anthony
Maybe they were inspired by social reformer and womenâs rights activist Susan B Anthony, who fought for gender equality. Born over 200 years ago, she never stopped speaking up, but a large part of her was silenced. She was a lesbian hero but they donât teach you that in history class.Â
This year Lesbian Visibility Week (22 – 28 April) is all about a community that is unified, not uniform. Diva are working with their global partners to celebrate the incredible diversity of LGBTQIA women, and they want every single one of you to get involved!
For Lesbian Visibility Week 2024 the power of sisterhood will be celebrated by uplifting incredible LGBTQIA women from every generation, in every field and in every country around the world. One community, so many brilliant individuals can all take a moment in the spotlight to be recognised for the work they do and the joy they bring.
Immerse yourself in herstory with Lesbian herstory, an Instagram account that posts images of lesbians and related cultural artefacts from times gone by.
Some photos from back in the day:
How We Met: âMy neighbours encouraged me to call and ask her outâ
Deborah (left) and Maria at a ball in the New Forest in 1995. Photograph: Supplied image
Deborah, 67, and Maria, 70, met at a line dancing class in 1995. They fell in love and now live in Hove.
After a divorce, Deborah found herself living in Portslade, Brighton, in the mid-1990s. âI had only recently come out,â she says. âI didnât have many lesbian friends, so Iâd started going out more to meet people.â She decided to give line dancing a whirl.
âI walked in and saw Maria. She was wearing a hat that looked like a flying cap and was with someone called Tanya, who Iâd seen before.â She went over to say hello, but didnât get the response she was expecting. âTanya turned to Maria and said, âDo we know her?â I was a bit crushed.â
Despite the awkward start, Maria thought Deborah was âcute and a bit cheekyâ. They chatted briefly, but then the class started. âIâd moved to Brighton from London and was living in a shared house,â says Maria. âI wasnât able to work because I was struggling with ME, but I liked to get out when I was well enough.â
At the time, homophobia was still rife in some parts of the country, but there was an active LGBT+ community in Brighton. âPeople used to say, âAre you on the scene?â which meant going out and about and meeting people. The scene was quite small, with a few bars that women used to go to,â says Deborah. âSo we kept bumping into each other at different dance classes and started chatting more and more.â
Eventually they swapped numbers. âI was close to my neighbours at the time and they encouraged me to call and ask her out,â says Deborah. When she rang, Maria was in the middle of running a local gathering for Polish women and had asked not to be disturbed by any calls. âWhen they said it was Deb, I said, âOh, I will take that!â and just grabbed the phone. I couldnât talk long but she said letâs go to the theatre. At first I didnât cotton on to the fact that she liked me.â
Deborah and Maria at a wedding in Sussex in 2023. Photograph: Supplied image
In September 1995, Maria suggested they go for a walk together. âI love being in nature,â she says. âMy plan was to go and see the white chalk cliffs and watch the sun setting over the sea. Deb had the wrong shoes and no jacket so I lent her one, then we went to the pub afterwards.â Deborah still remembers their conversation. âFor some reason, I started talking about how organic lemons were really good. I remember thinking, âFor Godâs sake, stop talking about lemons,ââ she laughs.
They soon began setting up dates, including parties and more dancing classes. âI was busy co-parenting my daughter, and Maria was still recovering from ME, so it suited us both to take things slow to start,â says Deborah. At a party, Maria met Deborahâs daughter for the first time and knew things were getting more serious. âIt was a bit of a milestone because I was meeting someone important and we got on really well.â
Telling their families about the relationship was another big step. âMy mum was a bit surprised and frosty at first, but she quickly warmed to Maria,â says Deborah. âLater in her life, as she got infirm, Maria was a great nurse to her.â Maria says her parents were initially âjudgmentalâ about two women having a relationship but that Deborah persisted in getting to know them. âSheâs so nice that they eventually cracked.â
The pair moved in together in Hove two years after meeting, and had a civil partnership in 2006. âIn the 70s and 80s, it was really hard to be gay, and women with children would have them taken away if they came out,â says Maria. âBut by the mid-90s it had become much easier. Itâs hard to imagine now how scary it used to be.â
Deborah taught education as a university lecturer in Brighton, before retiring in 2018 to write novels and a memoir. Maria later worked as a Polish interpreter, writer and creative writing teacher.
Deborah says they have supported each other through bereavements, including her motherâs death and losing both of Mariaâs parents. âWe lost our friend Tanya in an accident, too. We offered each other very practical help as well as emotional.â
Maria says Deb is âreally beautifulâ and one of the most dynamic people sheâs ever met. âSheâs an exciting person to live with and you can never be bored around her.â
Whatever happens, Deborah says they always âhave a laugh togetherâ. âMaria has the most integrity of anyone I know and sheâs always got my back.â
Out In The City Womenâs Meeting
Thursday, 25 April 2024 â 2.00pm â 4.00pm
Meeting at Cross Street Chapel, 29 Cross Street, Manchester M2 1NL (Kenworthy Room)
Rochdale Town Hall is a Victorian-era municipal building and is “widely recognised as being one of the finest municipal buildings in the country”.
We travelled by train and tram and had lunch in the Regal Moon (originally used as the Regal cinema) before our visit to the Grade I listed building.
Construction was completed by 1871 although the cost had, by then, increased beyond expectations from the projected ÂŁ40,000 to ÂŁ160,000 (ÂŁ15,850,000 in 2024).
Previously, Rochdale Council met in all sorts of different buildings to conduct the townâs business. The council chamber was purpose-built and here the Council could discuss, debate and often disagree in style. There used to be a screen to keep the public separate. This kept the noise out and stopped tomatoes being thrown at the councillors!
The council offices are now based at Number One, Riverside and in 2021 work began to restore the building to its former glory, some 150 years after it was first completed. The work has recently been completed and the Town Hall is once again open to the public as a remarkable space thatâs accessible to everyone.
New group coming to Levenshulme – a fun and informal intersectional drop-in where all members of our LGBTQIA+ community are welcome to come down, grab a brew, build some connections and find new ways to flourish.
The first Levy Queer Club will take place on Tuesday 30 April from 7.30pm to 9.00pm in Studio Room, Levenshulme Old Library.
Come and meet other local LGBTQIA+ folk and decide what you want your local Queer Club to offer!
Behind the Movement that Brought Homosexuality – and Psychiatry’s Power – to a Vote 50 years ago
A Yale historian argues in a new book that post-war psychiatrists had pathologised homosexuality to legitimise and hold on to their raw yet fading political power.
Demonstrators gathered in Albany, NY, in 1971 to demand gay rights and declare âHomo Is Healthy. âRichard C Wandel / LGBT Community Center National History Archive
Fifty years ago, the United Stateâs psychiatrists effectively put gay peopleâs mental health – and their very place in society – to a vote.
Five months prior, on 15 December 1973, the 15-member board of the American Psychiatric Association (APA) had voted unanimously, with two abstentions, that homosexuality should no longer be considered a mental illness.
The epochal elimination of the homosexuality diagnosis from the APAâs influential bible, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, or DSM, made the front page of The New York Times and The Washington Post. The Chicago Gay Crusader ran the cheeky, if world-weary, banner headline, â20,000,000 Gay People Cured!â
Many outlets covered the APAâs decision to remove homosexuality from its list of mental disorders. The Chicago Gay Crusader / Windy City Times
But the policy shift was met with dismay by prominent APA members who remained wedded to their conviction that homosexuality was a pathology warranting âreparativeâ treatment. They prompted a ballot referendum of the organisationâs rank and file to repeal the boardâs vote.
On 8 April 1974, the APA reported the tally: 58% of the more than 10,000 members to cast a ballot had supported upholding the vote.
Gay people remained âcured.â
âIt was a sea change in LGBT rights,â said the APAâs current president, Dr Petros Levounis, who as an openly gay man represents a prime product of that change.
Loosening psychiatryâs grip on homosexuality
Those two crucial votes were the culmination of years of both external gay-activist pressure on the APA and an internal reform campaign, fuelled by the myriad civil rights movements that bloomed out of the 1960s. These revolutionaries sought to release the repressive grip that Freud-descended psychoanalysis held over post-war American society.
âPsychiatry really set the conditions within which people had to make sense of themselves,â said Regina Kunzel, a professor of history and womenâs, gender and sexuality studies at Yale University, referring to the period, from about 1940 through the 1970s, when psychoanalysis dominated the psychiatry field and enjoyed its cultural and political zenith.
“In the Shadow of Diagnosis” book cover. Regina Kunzel
Kunzel is the author of a new academic text, âIn the Shadow of Diagnosis: Psychiatric Power and Queer Life,â in which she argues that historians have under-recognised psychiatryâs sweeping influence over the perception and treatment of gays and lesbians during the mid-20th century.
The word âpowerâ is littered across the pages of Kunzelâs tidy and at times harrowing account of the mistreatment and torment sustained by gay and gender-nonconforming Americans at the hands of the psychiatric establishment. Psychiatrists, Kunzel asserts, were not merely interested in caring for distressed patients or exerting their influence on the culture at large. They also sought to bolster their own power and authority by proclaiming subject-matter expertise regarding homosexuality and enforcing the heterosexual nuclear family as a Cold War-era bulwark against the existential threat of communism.
âPsychiatry wasnât just doctors in hospitals, in clinics,â said Kunzel, who sourced copious documentation of gay people being locked in such asylums for years against their will. âThey really made bargains with the state to enhance their authority.â
Psychiatrists did so by partnering with the military to weed homosexuals out of the armed forces, and with the criminal justice system to aid in the policing and sodomy prosecutions of gay people. Their pathologising of homosexuality also influenced the federal governmentâs campaign to flush gays from the civil service during the Lavender Scare (recently depicted in the limited series âFellow Travellersâ).
This swell of criminalisation of gay Americans came in the wake of the Kinsey reports and their bombshell findings. In 1948, Alfred Kinsey published âSexual Behaviour in the Human Male,â shocking Americans with his finding that 37% of men reported a history of sex with other men. The cultural backlash to Kinsey was driven at least in part by psychoanalysts.
Gay rights activist Frank Kameny, second in line, protests with others outside the White House in 1965.Bettmann / via Getty Images
As a countervailing anti-psychiatry movement eventually began to take hold, psychiatrists stoked homophobic anxieties with one hand while offering a solution – reparative therapy, also known as conversion therapy – with the other, fuelling a feedback loop that bolstered their central and supposedly indispensable place in society.
Gay activismâs ascent thus became dependent on psychoanalysisâ decline. The Mattachine Society, founded in 1950, saw the APAâs categorisation of homosexuality as a disease as the linchpin obstructing gay liberation.
âOff the couches and into the streets!â became a popular liberationist slogan, emphasising that gay people were not mentally ill and were a force to be reckoned with.
Psychiatry âlegitimised a great deal of horrorsâ
By defining homosexuality as a pathology – the diagnosis appeared in the DSMâs first edition in 1952 – the APA âlegitimised a great deal of the horrors,â said Andrew Scull, a sociology professor at the University of California, San Diego, and an expert on the history of psychiatry.
Such horrors, many of which were imposed by coercion or during forced institutionalisation in the name of curing homosexual urges and behaviours, included lobotomy, insulin shock, whatâs now known as electroconvulsive therapy and aversion-therapy treatment (including the use of emetics and electric shocks including to the genitals).
One company that made shock-therapy devices even had a regular booth at the APAâs annual conference.
In 1970, the year after the Stonewall uprising, infuriated gay activists began infiltrating these conferences and raucously demanding an end to such mistreatment and the delisting of homosexuality as a psychiatric disorder. In 1972, a gay psychiatrist stunned conference attendees when he appeared on a panel anonymously – dressed in an oversize tuxedo, a ghoulish mask and a wig – and spoke of the anguish of working in the profession from within the closet.
Barbara Gittings, Frank Kameny and John Fryer (Dr H Anonymous) at the American Psychiatric Associationâs 1972 national convention in Dallas. Kay Tobin / New York Public Library
During this same period, Kunzel writes, the APA top brass was seeking to defend psychiatry as an evidence-based science in the face of mounting attacks on the fieldâs legitimacy. So when gay advocates presented to the organisation newer research suggesting that homosexuality was not a sickness but a normal variant of human sexuality, they found a receptive audience among key APA leaders.
âOrganised psychiatry was scuttling for safety,â Dr Richard Pillard, who at the time was a young APA member and a very rare openly gay psychiatrist, recalled in âCured,â a recent documentary about this moment in the organisationâs history.
Dr Lawrence Hartmannâs APA membership also dates back to that era. Speaking about the appeals he and others made to the organisationâs leadership to reconsider its stance on homosexuality during this historic window, he said: âIt took some persuading. Sometimes science and politics can cooperate.â Even as he remained professionally in the closet, Hartmann in 1970 helped found what became an influential group of APA members who sought to reform and modernise the organisation and make it more responsive to the array of recent socio-political upheavals.
Hartmann recalled his crucial efforts to master the bylaws and byzantine bureaucracy of the APA. He marshalled through the proper internal channels a position paper he had written with Pillard arguing for the APA to remove homosexuality from the DSM and become an actual champion of gay civil rights. Ultimately, Hartmann got the measure passed by the APA assembly and sent on to the board for the pivotal, and successful, December 1973 vote.
At that time, the APA also put its weight behind civil rights protections for gay people and supported the repeal of state sodomy laws then on the books in 42 states and Washington, D.C. (When the Supreme Court finally struck down all such statutes in 2003, 14 states still had them.)
âWith various populations, it was taken as a sign of a reasonable scientific health that a large organisation could be open to real discussion and real rethinking,â said Hartmann, who gradually came out as gay over the next two decades and served as president of the APA from 1991 to 1992.
The sea change
Asked about his own reaction 50 years ago to this sea change in the APA, Hartman said, âWe at the time didnât know what it would mean. It turned out to be very influential.â
Thatâs putting it mildly. The full parade of barriers to gay civil rights – including housing and employment discrimination, laws governing sex between consenting adults, and the bans on gay people immigrating, adopting children and marrying – all hinged on whether gay people were defined as constitutionally well or as psychologically sick, clinical pariahs at a time when all manner of psychiatric disorders were magnets for stigma and discrimination. And so, the APAâs policy change sent off shockwaves that continue to course across the legal landscape.
The APA did not, however, make a clean break from pathologising homosexuality with the 1973 board vote. As a compromise in the face of resistance, the leadership allowed for a new diagnosis to enter the DSM at that time: âsexual orientation disturbance,â for people who were distressed over their homosexuality, including those who wished to change it. This diagnosis was then replaced by âego-dystonic homosexualityâ in 1980. That diagnosis was struck in 1986; but at that time, the symptom of âmarked distress about oneâs sexual orientationâ was newly included in the diagnosis of âsexual disorders not otherwise specified.â That last vestige of pathologised homosexuality wouldnât finally be deleted until 2013.
Critics say those various diagnoses helped legitimise decades of conversion therapy efforts. Research that began to emerge in the mid-1990s ultimately discredited this practice, which although still carried out, is now widely condemned as harmful and ineffective by mainstream mental health professionals and is banned for minors in 22 states and Washington, DC.
The new frontier
Kunzel is among those who look at homosexualityâs decades long evolution in the DSM and see at least a partial parallel to the more recent effort to depathologise transgender identities.
âTranssexualismâ first entered the manual in 1980, enraging many trans activists for, they argued, turning their identity into a sickness. This was replaced in 1994 by âgender identity disorderâ – an effort by the APA to mitigate stigma that nevertheless left many trans people unappeased. Then, in 2013, that diagnosis was replaced by the current âgender dysphoria,â which distances the source of distress from the core sense of self and attributes it more to societyâs stigma toward gender nonconformity.
Today, there is sustained pressure on the APA to discard the gender dysphoria diagnosis and, just as with gay and lesbian people, totally depathologise trans people in the eyes of psychiatry. However, because receiving hormones and transition-related surgeries is key for many trans people to fully realise their identities, and given that insurance companies require a diagnosis to cover such treatment, a tension remains that may prove irreconcilable.
Levounis, the current APA president, declined to take a position on what should become of the gender dysphoria diagnosis.
âItâs a very active debate within our field,â Levounis said. âUnlike other discussions within the APA of yesteryear, we do involve a lot of lived experience in our work – people who are transgender,â including psychiatrists and non-psychiatrists alike, âwho do help inform us in these discussions.â
Hartmann said the effort to depathologise homosexuality has âa mixed relevance to the present, very lively and argumentative fieldâ of gender identity – one in which he hopes to see further research that will yield clearer insights. Surveying the fruits of his own efforts five decades ago to strike homosexuality from the DSM, Hartmann said, âI think it has helped an enormous number of peopleâs self-esteem. I think it has helped them face real problems in their life, including psychiatric problems. I think it has helped them fight for justice in other realms. And I think there are some people who came around and became thoughtful about what other things are unfair.â
The Pioneer of British Soul: Celebrating Dusty Springfield’s Legacy, 25 Years After Her Death
‘When I first heard Dusty’s voice, I fell in love,’ said Elton John.
Shortly after her first solo single, âI Only Want To Be With Youâ, became a top five hit in the UK, Dusty Springfield was asked how she was enjoying her success. âItâs marvellous to be popular,â she said. âBut foolish to think it will last.â
It was typically self-effacing remark from a woman who would go on to become one of the most important British singers of all time. Whether it was calling her classic album Dusty in Memphis ârather overratedâ, cranking up the volume in her headphones in the studio to drown out the sound of her own voice or anxiety over her appearance, Dusty could never seem to see in herself what others could. But, just over 25 years since her death on 2 March 1999, her status as a musical icon is undeniable.
Over the course of her lifetime, Dusty Springfield was many things: a symbol of the swinging 60s; the woman who helped introduce the UK to soul; an LGBT+ icon; an anti-apartheid activist; and an unexpected ’80s pop star. She was also a bundle of contradictions. She was the white English convent girl who loved singing Black American music. She frequently hated the sound of her own voice – and yet had one of the best in the business. She was painfully shy, yet willing to stand up to the South African government. She was known for her pranks and love of food fights, but prone to enormous bouts of melancholy. Also an instantly recognisable figure, who was always an enigma.
Dusty was born Mary Isabel Catherine Bernadette OâBrien to Irish parents on 16 April 1939, in Hampstead, London. Family life was far from happy. Her father, a tax advisor, verbally abused his daughter and her mother was dependent on drink. But they did instill in her and her older brother, Dion (later known as Tom), a love of music. At her convent school, she told her teacher she wanted to be a blues singer when she grew up – even if it looked unlikely at the time. âYouâd never in a hundred years have picked her out as someone who was going to be famous,â a classmate told writer Lucy OâBrien in her book Dusty: The Classic Biography (recently reissued in an updated edition).
Dusty – whose nickname came from playing football with the boys – was worried she would end up as a librarian. “I had awful glasses, unstyled hair and thick ankles,â she said. But a fascination with Hollywood stars sparked the idea that she could transform herself into something else. As she said to Lucy OâBrien: âI just decided I wanted to become someone else ⌠so I became someone else. I had to change Mary OâBrien to be successful.â
And so the invention of Dusty Springfield began. In 1958 she answered an advert in the newspaper and joined a band called The Lana Sisters – calling herself Shann Lana – and toured with Cliff Richard, Adam Faith and Morecambe & Wise. She then formed a folk-trio with her brother and another friend, called The Springfields. In 1962 their cover of Wanda Jacksonâs 1956 record âSilver Threads and Golden Needlesâ reached number 20 on the Billboard chart – the first by a British band to do so. In 1963, their single âIsland of Dreamsâ was the fourth best-selling song in the UK. It was Dustyâs voice, though, that was the main attraction – and she had plans for her career beyond singing folksy songs.
In 1963 she went solo as Dusty Springfield. Her first single, âI Only Want To Be With Youâ, was a top five hit in the UK. The timing was perfect for Dusty to be part of the British Invasion in America, and the song reached No 12 in the US. Her first album, A Girl Called Dusty, came out in the spring of 1964 and stayed in the UK top ten for 23 weeks.
Her look – platinum blonde hair backcombed to within an inch of its life (âI used so much hairspray that I feel personally responsible for global warming,â she later told the New York Times), eyes painted as black as a panda – was already in place. Dusty had a specific vision for her music, too. Though she didnât write songs, she had an instinct for picking great ones and interpreting them brilliantly.
Her British contemporaries were Sandi Shaw, Lulu and Cilla Black. But the music that excited Dusty most was that of Black American artists in the early ’60s – bands like The Ronettes, The Chiffons, The Shirelles and Martha & The Vandellas. She loved the music on the Stax, Atlantic and Motown labels – in fact, she loved Motown so much she named her dog after it.
Dusty’s distinctive look became symbolic of the Swinging Sixties. MEGA
Speaking in a 1989 radio interview she said: âI wanted to do Motown but I also wanted to be the Exciters, I wanted to be The Shirelles. I wanted to be the Scepter label as well. I wanted to be a cross-section of all of it.â Dusty was later dubbed âthe queen of blue-eyed soulâ but, reflecting on how she and other British artists like The Beatles tried to emulate the rhythm and blues sound of Black America, she says she had to accept that it was impossible. âIn hindsight what gave (our music) its peculiar charm is that we made a lot of mistakes, we couldnât quite cop it. We did it in an English fashion, which used to drive me crazy because I wanted to be totally accurate. But I was white, I couldnât be.â
Still, she played a vital part in popularising soul music in the UK. In 1965 she hosted the Ready Steady Go: The Sound of Motown special, which introduced The Supremes, the Miracles, Martha & the Vandellas and the Temptations to a primetime UK audience.
She once said that she felt more affinity with Black artists. âWhen it comes to singing and feeling, I just want to be one of them and not me,” she said. âThen again, I see how some of them are treated and I thank God Iâm white.â Before she toured South Africa in 1964, she had it written into her contract that she wouldnât play to any segregated audiences – a clause she steadfastly refused to break, and which led to her being deported from the country. The South African government said that Springfield had failed to observe âthe South African way of life.â
Dusty was labelled ‘the queen of blue-eyed soul’
By the mid-sixties Dusty was one of the biggest stars of the British pop scene. In 1965 she performed at the NME Poll Winners concert alongside The Beatles and The Rolling Stones. In 1966 she scored her biggest hit so far with âYou Donât Have To Say You Love Meâ (its vocals recorded in a stairwell) – which made number one in the UK and the top five in the US. Her voice was a beguiling combination of power and vulnerability; Bette Midler called it âhaunting and husky, full of secrets and promises.â
The exuberant look sheâd created was the perfect symbol of Swinging Sixties London – and the newspapers lapped up stories about her notorious parties and legendary food fights – including the time she hurled a bread roll at a waiter in a fancy restaurant. But behind the bubbly persona she was dealing with mental health struggles and an often crippling lack of confidence – coupled with the pressure of hiding that she was gay. âShe was very insecure,â said Lulu. âShe was a hard taskmaster in the studio because she was such a perfectionist, but that’s why she was so great too.”
By the late â60s, Dustyâs career had stalled in the States. Despite early hits, sheâd struggled to have a proper breakthrough, so in 1968 she decided to try something new. She signed with Atlantic Records – home of her idol Aretha Franklin – and began working with the producer Jerry Wexler on her fifth solo album. The result, Dusty in Memphis, is considered her musical masterpiece. It featured contributions from Carole King, Gerry Goffin, Burt Bacharach, Hal David and Randy Newman. Dustyâs voice is at its most soulful and seductive – further elevating songs like âJust a Little Lovinââ, âI Don’t Want to Hear Anymoreâ and âSon of a Preacher Manâ. Writing about the album for Rolling Stone, Greil Marcus said: âMost white female singers in todayâs music are still searching for music they can call their own. Dusty is not searching – she just shows up.â
Despite the albumâs obvious quality, it was somehow a commercial flop on its initial release, only reaching 99 on the US chart and failing to make the top 40 back home. Dusty would only record one more album with Atlantic, 1970âs A Brand New Me (released in the UK as From Dusty With Love), which failed to crack the top 100 in America.
She might not have been dominating the charts in 1970 – but, thanks to an interview in the Evening Standard, she was still all over the UK press. Talking to Ray Connolly, she addressed the speculation about her sexual preferences. âI know that Iâm perfectly capable of being swayed by a girl as by a boy,â she said. âMore and more people feel that way and I donât see why I shouldnât.â
It was an enormously brave, and unusual, statement for a public figure to make at the time. It would set her on the way to being the LGBT+ icon she later became – but at the time, Middle England was still rife with homophobia.
Dusty became an LGBT+ icon, despite the homophobia of the time
That same year she decided to leave the UK and start a new life in the US. Dusty had once dreamed of being a Hollywood star but, after moving to Los Angeles, she faded into obscurity. She continued, intermittently, to release music, but it didnât sell well. âI started to lose my way,â she said. âI stopped listening to the voice in me that knows whatâs right for me.â Feeling adrift in a new country, and with her career waning, she increasingly turned to drink and drugs, and often self-harmed. By 1985, in a new low, she was signed to nightclub owner Peter Stringfellowâs record label and released an album that reached No 85 in the UK charts. It looked like there was no way back.
Then in 1987, long time Dusty fans the Pet Shop Boys asked her to appear on one of their singles. The band – coming off the back of their second number one single, âItâs A Sinâ – were warned off the idea by their record company, who told them they could get Tina Turner or Barbra Streisand instead. âBut we wanted her,â Neil Tennant said in the BBCâs Reel Stories. Dusty asked them what they wanted her to sound like – to which they said: like Dusty Springfield. âOh, I think I can do that,â she said. âAll of her life feels like it goes into that song,â said Tennant. âItâs that thing where someone takes your song and makes it ten times better.â
âWhat Have I Done To Deserve This?â went to No 2 in both the UK and American charts. It was Dustyâs first major hit in 20 years. She recorded more songs with the band, including two more top twenty singles: âNothing Has Been Provedâ, the soundtrack to the 1989 film Scandal, and âIn Privateâ. They also co-produced her 1990 album Reputation.
In 1994, Dusty would get another boost to her career when âSon of a Preacher Manâ was included on the soundtrack to Pulp Fiction, introducing a whole new generation to her music (a re-release of the song even went to number one in Iceland). In 1995 she released another new album, A Very Fine Love – but it would turn out to be her last. During its recording Dusty was diagnosed with breast cancer. Though she beat it the first time, it soon returned. She died on 2 March 1999 at her home in Oxfordshire – just weeks before her 60th birthday.
Less than a fortnight after her death, Elton John inducted her into the Rock n Roll Hall of Fame. âWhen I first heard Dustyâs voice, I fell in love,â he said.
From asserting control over her music, even when it meant she was labelled difficult; to taking a stance against racism when many of her peers turned a blind eye; to transforming her persona through her image, Dusty was ahead of her time in so many ways.
She laid a path for female British soul, influencing stars like Annie Lennox, Amy Winehouse and Adele, not only with her voice, but with her spirit and her refusal to fit the mould. She was hard to pigeonhole, itâs true. But thereâs one label she can easily be filed under: as one of the worldâs greatest ever female vocalists.
Project to Replace Damaged Trans Memorial Reaches Milestone
Two years ago, a memorial that was used as a place to remember members of the trans community and gender-diverse people that have since passed away was destroyed in a fire. For eight years, the sycamore tree, based in Manchesterâs Sackville Gardens, had been a powerful place for people to contemplate and was decorated with plaques full of memories dedicated to people.
With the fire, which took place during Manchester Pride, causing âirreparable damageâ, it was decided it was impossible to recover it and instead plans were put in motion to find a suitable replacement that carried on the important message of the memorial.
Following an extensive open-call to artists, designers and architects, Sparkle, the national trans charity, has now unveiled the plans to replace the sculpture with a new design that symbolises the strength and spirit of the trans community and gender diverse people.
Sparkle – The National Transgender Charity in partnership with New Practice, an LGBTQIA+ and women-led architectural practice and global professional services firm Arup, have submitted a planning permission application for a new National Trans Monument.
The design, âPassing on Lightâ, was conceived by Bek Ziola (they/he), Lead Architect of New Practice, following a bespoke, person-centred and experience-led consultation process by Arup to capture the needs and wishes of diverse trans and gender non-conforming communities in Greater Manchester and across the UK.
The new monument draws together three key themes identified by the consultation; a site for contemplation and reflection, whilst also symbolising the strength and spirit of trans and gender diverse people.
Bek Ziola said, âThe National Transgender Monument is a project that I hold very dear to my heart and have personal interest in getting delivered.â
Jay Crawford (he/they), Chair of Sparkle said âIt was important to the Charity that the views and lived experience of the communities we serve helped shape the project to replace the previous memorial, so itâs fantastic that a trans person and their allies submitted a visionary design which fulfilled the original brief in such a captivating and uplifting way. Weâd like to thank everyone at Arup, the LGBT Consortium, AECOM, Mott MacDonald, and, of course, Bek and Samuel at New Practice, for getting the project to this exciting stage.
As well as welcoming donations from community members and allies, weâre also exploring public funding streams and talking to private sector benefactors to ensure that weâre able to deliver the new National Trans Monument within such an ambitious timeframe.â
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Jodrell Bank Observatory in Cheshire hosts a number of radio telescopes as part of the Jodrell Bank Centre for Astrophysics at the University of Manchester.
The observatory was established in 1945 by Bernard Lovell, a radio astronomer at the university, to investigate cosmic rays after his work on radar in the Second World War. It has since played an important role in the research of meteoroids, quasars, pulsars, masers, and gravitational lenses, and was heavily involved with the tracking of space probes at the start of the Space Age.
It took us just fifty minutes from Manchester by coach to arrive at this atmospheric place. We had to turn our telephones off or on flight mode whilst on site. A member of staff greeted us and distributed site maps and a timetable of events.
The first building we came to â the First Light Pavilion â featured the First Light Exhibition and the Space Dome which was showing a film âThe Story of Jodrell Bankâ. This architecturally-stunning building is the same shape and scale of the Lovell Telescope. The building also houses The Angle cafĂŠ where we had our lunch.
Despite some slight rain we explored the beautiful grounds and discovered the Whispering Dishes â a pair of dishes, separated by a distance, but in which whispers can be heard clearly.
Dominating the landscape is the amazing Lovell Telescope, the main telescope at the observatory. Its diameter of 250Â ft (76Â m) makes it the third largest steerable radio telescope in the world.
It was a very enjoyable day out and more photos can be seen here.
How We Met: âI Ordered a Book from his Shop so I Could Give Him my Phone Numberâ
Neil and Mark, both in their 60s, met at an LGBT+ bookshop in 1987, when Neil kept coming to browse the shelves and chat to the âhot clerkâ. They hit it off on their first date and married in 2011.
Mark (left) and Neil in a friendâs apartment in Brooklyn, about 1990. Photograph: Courtesy of Mark and Neil
Coming out wasnât easy for Neil. Although heâd been on a few dates with men while studying at medical school, he worried about peopleâs reactions. By the spring of 1987 he finally plucked up the courage to tell his parents. âI was living in New York, working as a pathologist, and they were based in Connecticut,â he says. Before visiting them, he stopped to pick up a book that he hoped would help his parents to understand and accept his sexuality.
When he walked into A Different Light, a popular LGBT+ bookshop, he spotted Mark. âHe helped me to find what I was looking for and I went to see my parents,â says Neil. âWhen I told a friend where I had been, he asked if Iâd seen the âhot clerkâ. I realised it was the man who served me.â
Neil returned to the shop soon after but didnât feel comfortable asking for a date. âInstead, I ordered a book that I knew would take ages to arrive so I had to give him my phone number,â he laughs. Neil continued to return to the store over the next few weeks so heâd have an excuse to speak to Mark.
âWe were chatting a lot but it became clear he just wasnât going to ask me out,â says Mark. âEventually I called him to ask if pathologists like beer and we went out for a drink.â
They hit it off straight away and went back to Markâs apartment that night. But Neil already had a date with another man lined up for the next day. âI lied and told Mark I had an autopsy I had to do and thatâs why I had to leave,â he says. âThe date was really bad, though, and made me realise how much I liked Mark.â At the time, Neil was house sitting at a duplex apartment with a wine cellar. âI invited Mark to come and stay, and we spent the next few weeks together. It was like a honeymoon.â
Mark (right) and Neil with the latterâs mother, in New York, 2004. Photograph: Courtesy of Neil and Mark
When Neil moved back to his own apartment in Washington Heights, Mark came to stay. They ended up living there for five years, before moving to the East Village in 1992, then on to the Lower East Side in 2003, where they have lived ever since. A year after they began dating, Mark came out to his mother and introduced her to Neil. âShe accepted it and eventually both our mothers became friends. I think they wanted to talk about us,â he laughs.
Although they loved going out with friends and exploring New York together, living in the shadow of the Aids crisis was hard. âWe lost 75 friends and we went to a memorial service every week,â says Mark. âIt wasnât until the late 1980s that there were tests, so although people practised safe sex, you never really knew who was infected. In the 90s, I even wrote a play about gay life and activism.â Neil also remembers enjoying a lot of fun times. âThe club scene was crazy. There was a feeling of living every moment like it was your last,â he says.
In 1992, they held a commitment ceremony, then married in 2011 when it became legal. âWe never wanted a wedding because it seemed heteronormative, but we wanted to get married for legal and tax reasons,â says Neil. âWe knew a rabbi and he married us. It was just him, two witnesses and some good food.â
Neil says that Mark is his favourite person. âEven when heâs in the toughest emotional state, he takes care of people. He is always supportive of the Jewish holidays I want to celebrate, as well as my interests.â Mark, for his part, is attracted to his partnerâs intelligence. âThe minute we met, there was a physical connection but also a profound intellectual connection,â he says. âWe got together at a very difficult time but weâve taken care of each other. I found someone who will always be there for me.â
Thursday, 18 April 8.00pm – LOUD Cabaret
A new monthly queer cabaret night hosted at The Met!
Weâre delighted to announce a new queer cabaret night where we will be showcasing the most fabulous of rising stars from across Bury and beyond.
Expect tantalising musicians, side-splitting comedians, captivating dancers and a line-up of talented additions for your delight on a monthly basis. Thursdays have never been so exciting!
Our first event will feature Hunter Millington, who will present his one-man musical exploration of gender and their transition through a western lens. Expect rootinâ tootinâ Cowboys and Cowgirls and everything in-between. Ye-ha!
The event will be hosted by Nathaniel Hall and will also feature mandla rae and Minute Taker.
Supported by The Greater Manchester LGBTQ+ Network and Dibby Theatre
ÂŁ11 standard / ÂŁ9 subsidised / ÂŁ13 supporters (including fees)
Standard What we need most people to pay.
Subsidised For people currently unable to pay the standard price.
Supporters The extra you pay goes directly towards the subsidised ticket option.
Stockport has tipped its hat to its rich industrial history with the reopening of the Hat Works Museum.
The Hat Works Museum, the UKâs only museum dedicated to the hatting industry, hats, and headwear, relaunched on 21 March 2024, after an extensive refurbishment and reinterpretation of its collection.
Stockport has been a centre for the hatting industry since the 17th Century and was famous for its high-class fur felt hats.
Stockport developed a reputation for quality in the early 19th Century and hatting grew into one of the townâs main employers, as it mechanised.
Rabbit was the preferred fur and a large factory could produce around 5,000 felt hats a week, with pelts imported from around the world as local suppliers could no longer meet demand.
In fact, the mercuric nitrate the furriers applied to the pelts was highly toxic, commonly causing confusion, mental distress and even death, which led to the common phrase we all now use â âMad as a Hatterâ and, of course, Stockport County owes its nickname of The Hatters to the hatting industry.
During a 60-year hatting boom (1875 to 1935), Stockport was home to around 30 major hat factories.
However, since World War One and the Great Depression, the industry declined as cheaper alternatives and new fashions drastically altered hat demand marking the end of over four centuries of local production.
Stockportâs Hat Works first took up residence in Wellington Mill in 2000 with previously a small collection of hats on display.
The Grade-II listed Wellington Mill was built as a fireproof cotton spinning mill in the 1830s but switched to hats during Stockportâs hatting heyday in the 1890s.
Visitors can now discover more than 1,300 hats and related objects, with an array of hat types from military and practical to high-end and artistic and while many were manufactured in Stockport, the collection includes hats from around the world.
Thanks to a grant from the Association for Industrial Archaeology, which promotes the study, preservation and presentation of Britainâs industrial heritage, visitors can see the Victorian hat making machines in motion for the first time since 2016.
Plans to âPreserve and Protectâ Manchesterâs Iconic Gay Village Revealed
A plan of action intending to âpreserve and protectâ Manchesterâs iconic Gay Village for years to come has been launched
From being a haven and a sanctuary from discrimination, to a place of protest, the focal point of Manchester Pride celebrations, and so much more, Manchesterâs Gay Village has been an essential safe space for members of the LGBTQ+ community who have made this city their home for several decades now.
The globally-recognised neighbourhood draws in tens of thousands of visitors each year, and thereâs no doubt itâs truly one of the most welcoming and inclusive spaces in the city centre.
Which is why Manchester City Council says itâs keen to celebrate the role the area has played over the years.
And so, in a bid to do just that, an âaction planâ has been created to address how the character and spirit of the area can be maintained and preserved, as well as what improvements can be made to ensure the needs of the LGBTQ+ community are âat the heartâ of everything that takes place down in the Village.Â
The Council says itâs âintensely proudâ of the Villageâs reputation, both across the UK and throughout the rest of the world too, and it hopes to âenhance and promoteâ this reputation for years well into the future.
A range of proposals have already been identified to enhance the area, both in the short and long term, but on top of this, as part of the Councilâs âcommitmentâ to the Gay Village, several consultations have also taken place to better understand what the âpriorities, desires, and needsâ are for those who visit, live, and work there.
Collaboration will remain key during the roll-out of any changes, and action groups will be utilised to engage with all involved too, according to the Council.
So, What Enhancement Proposals are on the Cards Then?
Manchester City Council is keen to celebrate the role the area has played over the years / Credit: Manchester City Council
Well, according to the Council, these include the development of a neighbourhood management plan to bring improvements to the physical environment, the conducting of a CCTV audit to ensure coverage is being met, and plans to enhance relationships with Greater Manchester Police (GMP) to make sure residents and businesses are safe.
Damaged trees in Canal Street will also be replaced, alongside the developing of an exciting new social history and heritage trail for the Village as a whole.
New opportunities for street art and murals will also be identified. You can find out more, and see the âGay Village Action Planâ in full on the Manchester City Council website here.
The Secret Life of Paul OâGrady â By His Friends
âAn incredible manâ ⌠Paul O’Grady, the creator of Lily Savage, who died in March 2023. Photograph: Linda Nylind / The Guardian
He rose to fame as foul-mouthed drag star, Lily Savage, then abandoned the wig and became a national treasure. Friends including Sandi Toksvig, Amanda Holden and Gaby Roslin remember a true, terrific one-off.
I canât believe itâs been a year,â says Malcolm Prince, the producer of Paul OâGradyâs long-running Sunday teatime Radio 2 show. âAwful, awful, awful, awful. Itâs been such a very difficult year. Iâm embarrassed to say how tricky itâs been.â
OâGradyâs death on 28 March 2023, from sudden cardiac arrhythmia, came as a shock to the world. For decades, he had achieved the rare feat of presenting himself to the public as he truly was: funny, sharp, outspoken and compassionate in roughly equal measure. To some, he was best known as a comedian, to others a gameshow host, or an animal lover, or a political firebrand, or an LGBT+ pioneer.
OâGradyâs appeal was so broad that people argued about what his legacy should be after he died; even ITVâs big Good Friday show this year, a documentary entitled The Life and Death of Lily Savage, canât begin to contain the multitudes in OâGradyâs life, instead choosing to focus on the years he spent in drag.
âAs funny off stage as onâ ⌠Lily Savage with the fire brigade in Edinburgh in 1993. Photograph: Tom Kidd / Rex / Shutterstock
Everyone wanted to emphasise what a loyal friend he was. âHe was a brilliant raconteur,â says TV and radio presenter Amanda Holden, who joined OâGrady as an ambassador for Battersea Dogs Home. âI canât remember what I did last week, and then he would tell me a story about when he was in the clubs and you just go: âHow do you remember all that?â â especially knowing his lifestyle at the time. I absolutely adored him. His numberâs still saved in my phone. I canât delete it. I just wonât.â
Owen-Taylor first encountered OâGrady at the Black Cap pub in Camden, north London, in the early 90s, almost a decade after OâGrady had begun to perform as his alter ego Lily Savage. Owen-Taylor had just returned from Australia, where he had been making costumes for Perthâs local drag scene, centred on the townâs only gay club, a venue named Connections that was, as he recalls, located in âa room above a kebab shopâ. At the Black Cap, Owen-Taylor began circulating among the performers, touting his wares. âNikkie Vixen was the first drag artist to trust me, so I made a costume for her,â he explains. âThe second one was Regina Fong. And then the third dress I ever made in Britain was for Lily Savage.â
Perfect host ⌠on Lily Savageâs Blankety Blank. Photograph: Fremantle Media / Rex / Shutterstock
By this stage, Savage was starting to push against the margins of her club fame. Her longstanding residency at the Vauxhall Tavern in south London had attracted a feverishly devoted audience, but OâGrady wanted more. âWhen I met him, Paul had hired a theatre with his own money,â says Owen-Taylor. âHe was trying to see what he could do and if he could fill a theatre. He and (his partner-manager Brendan Murphy) wanted to set their sights higher.â
This led to the Edinburgh festival, where Savage was nominated for the Perrier award. After his return to London, OâGrady appeared at the Hackney Empireâs Best of the Fest night, where he met Brenda Gilhooly, who was then performing as Page 3 girl Gayle Tuesday. âI came off stage and this guy was in the wings, and said: âI really like your actâ. He had such a strong Liverpudlian accent that halfway through the conversation I went, âOh my God, are you Lily Savage?â,â says Gilhooly. âYou donât know when you meet someone that it is going to be the beginning of a lifelong friendship, do you? But that was it. We were just really good friends after that. When he went on tour, he asked me to be a support act.â
Heâd come in in the morning and go: âWhat sort of time is this? Oh my God,â because he was more of a late-night person
Gaby Roslin
What was the tour like? âItâs so sad, I saw Paul about three weeks before he died,â Gilhooly says. âHe made these, like, world war two sandwiches for us. White sliced bread with tinned salmon, and a cup of tea. We didnât even think about alcohol. But on tour we were really hungover all the time. Weâd be like: âRight, weâre not doing that tonight,â and then go out and get really drunk. Weâd be lying in all the outfits, on the ground, in the wings before the show. And then the music would start and we would just get up like puppets.â
This is also where she encountered OâGradyâs dramatic flair. âWe were doing these 2,000-seat theatres and it was sold out all around the country. I remember coming into the dressing room one night and I went, âHi Paul,â and he said, âIâm not going on.â The wig came off, and then the beads and I said, âBut what about the audience?â and Paul said, âFuck âem. Fuck âem!â I was in an absolute state about it. And then two minutes later, he said, âAh, all right. Iâll go on.â Afterwards heâs in the bar, talking to people and taking photos, all that. So itâs just kind of what happens when you get to know him. The rants and raves were never genuine.â
âHe could be grumpy, but he said it as it wasâ … with Gaby Roslin at the Chelsea flower show in 2022. Photograph: Mark Thomas / Alamy
âHe could be grumpy, but he said it as it was,â recalls Gaby Roslin. âThere was no fluff around it. Heâd come in in the morning and go: âWhat sort of time is this? Oh my God,â because he was more of a late-night person than an early morning person.â Roslin was OâGradyâs co-host during his big leap to the mainstream, as Savage became a presenter on Channel 4âs The Big Breakfast. The show âbrought Lily to a whole new generation,â says Roslin. âBefore, the people that knew Lily knew Lily, you know? They realised that Lily could be naughty, but on our show she could show her complete and utter respect and love for all ages.â
This era of The Big Breakfast was marked by an affectionate kinship between Roslin and Savage. âHe used to call me âGaby Roselyn the Tooting Tassle-Twirlerâ,â recalls Roslin. âI even played the part of her in the Lily Savage Show. Me, Bella Emberg and June Brown. I showed my children a photograph where they had coloured in my roots black. They gave me a can of lager and I had my feet up and my kids were pissing themselves laughing.â
Firebrand … Elton John, Lily Savage, AKA OâGrady and Sting in London in 1994. Photograph: Brendan Beirne / Shutterstock
Not that success would blunt OâGradyâs sharper edges. âI remember him telling me that, even though he had a TV show at the time, he couldnât get a mortgage to buy a nice place to live,â Owen-Taylor remembers of this era. âThey told him to get a guarantor. So he got Ian McKellen and Elton John to do it. âThere you go, a multimillionaire global pop star and a knight of the realm, stick that up your arse.ââ
But as Lily Savageâs star was rising, OâGrady decided to walk away and forge a career as himself. âHis decision to stop being Savage was sort of mentioned to me as an aside,â recalls Owen-Taylor, who by that point had made upwards of 300 costumes for her. âIt was a little bit of a shock, because, you know, I was ramped up for doing it every year. But he explained his decision and I totally understood, because heâd done 10 years-plus on the gay scene and 10 years on telly, and it was hard work. To have to be in all that makeup and the costumes and the wig, itâs a lot to put on and to be doing it continually. He saw other people just sort of waltz into work, sit for 20 minutes in the makeup chair and they were in front of the camera. He wanted that, and he had the talent for it, so good on him. It was a sad loss for the gay scene, but weâve got all the videos.â
With Ian McKellen at a press night at Theatre Royal Haymarket, London, in 2005. Photograph: David M Benett / Getty Images
âThe thing about Lily was a lot of it was Paul anyway,â says Gilhooly. âI mean, it was an act, obviously. But, and I know this is a cliche, he really was as funny off stage as on.â
Incredibly, OâGradyâs career as himself would soon eclipse that of Savage. He had his own show on ITV and Channel 4 over several years, which quickly assuaged any doubts that he would be less forthright as himself â witness the infamous clip from 2010, where OâGrady rants about the Tories.
Paulâs rant was one of the finest and most dexterous uses of expletives I have ever heard. I deeply regret not writing it down
Sandi Toksvig
It was around this time that OâGrady wrote a sitcom with Sandi Toksvig, entitled Nellie and Melba, where he would play Sheila Hancockâs son. âI have co-written with many people but never like that,â recalls Toksvig. âHe would send me handwritten scribbles of thoughts, such as referring to his mother as âEleanor of Aquitaine with a chip panâ. Sometimes we met and he just talked at me as I hurried to dash it down before going home to try to make some kind of sense of it in the form of a script.â Nellie and Melba never made it to screen but, as Toksvig remembers, âWhen the powers that be proved to be unsurprising idiots and decided not to make the series, Paulâs ensuing rant was one of the finest and most dexterous uses of expletives I have ever heard. I deeply regret not writing it down.â
âHe didnât need to be taught ⌠He could just do itâ ⌠OâGrady from a portrait session for the Guardian in 2015. Photograph: Linda Nylind / The Guardian
Not that this left OâGrady with little to do, since at this point he also held down his Radio 2 show. âRadio was the job he did the longest,â explains Prince. âHe did it for 14 years. He did 1,000 hours of radio and more, and he absolutely loved it. He was good at it, because he understood that thereâs just one person listening at home, and he had that real connection. He was a natural. He didnât need to be taught how to do it. He could just do it. And thatâs a real skill.â
It was on the Radio 2 show that Prince became one of OâGradyâs most enduring sidekicks, too. âAt first, I was just silent when he mentioned me on air,â he says. âBut then one day the talkback thing went wrong and I spoke on air, and the rest is history. He encouraged me to interrupt him. He took the piss out of me and I took the piss out of him. If you think about it, going back to the Vauxhall Tavern, Lily role.â
Double act ⌠with producer Malcolm Prince. Photograph: PA Images / Alamy
OâGrady and Prince were such a double act that, when OâGrady left the station, Prince went with him. âI was so lucky, because you can work with people and not necessarily get on with them. But I live very near to Paulâs now. Iâm 17 minutes from his house. He would drive his Mini round, park downstairs, bring the dog in, have a cup of tea, slice of cake. It was lovely. Absolutely lovely.â
Between them, OâGrady and Prince signed up for a show on Boom radio. In the latter stages of preparation, Prince paid OâGrady a visit. âI saw him for two hours on the day he died,â Prince recalls. âI was there. We were having tea. And we put the world to rights as we always did, and he said how excited he was about doing Boom. This was the day before we were going to do the first episode. Apparently, when the medics went in there, the mic was all still set up.â
Paws for thought ⌠with bulldog Donald in Paul OâGrady: For the Love of Dogs in 2022. Photograph: ITV / Rex / Shutterstock
âI really miss him, says Gilhooly, tearing up. âApart from being the most talented, wonderful, hilarious comedian â I mean, he was born to be a comedian â he was just such a dear person, a really lovely human being. He was a really good friend and fantastic company. Having a cup of tea with him was as entertaining as any show. He was an incredible man.â
âI got a new show recently,â says Roslin. âIâd always ring Savage to discuss new shows â I always called him Savage â so I went to call him. But then I had that split second where you think: âOh no, I canât.â But I know that heâs haunting me. He always said he was going to haunt everyone, that he was going to come back and keep an eye on us all.
He knew how much we all loved him, because at the end of every phone call Iâd go: âOh, my God, you know how much I love you,â and heâd go, âYou know I love you too. Now fuck off.ââ