Lockdown latest … and photos of older lesbians and gay men in Italy

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Lockdown latest

Matt Hancock, Health Secretary, is expected to announce the results of the latest local lockdown review at some point today.

Last week he said local leaders in affected areas would be able to recommend which parts of the region should and should not be subject to restrictions.

Greater Manchester Mayor, Andy Burnham, has said there will not be a blanket lifting of the current restrictions across Greater Manchester.

Local lockdown restrictions are in place across all boroughs apart from Wigan, which was brought in line with national restrictions last week, while Oldham is also subject to stricter measures than the rest of the region.

Mr Burnham told a press conference on Wednesday that local leaders in Greater Manchester would be recommending that Stockport and Bolton follow Wigan out of lockdown this week – but whether that happens will be down to the government.

He also said they would be recommending that restrictions in the rest of the region remain as they are.

We should find out from Matt Hancock what decisions have been made at some point over the next few hours.

Until restrictions are lifted in Manchester, Out In The City cannot meet.

 

Manchester Pride are THRILLED to announce the FULL LINE-UP for Alternative Manchester Pride Festival!
Join us from the comfort of your home for an incredible weekend of activism, arts & culture, community, youth and family offerings, partying + MORE 🎉 United We Stream
Out In The City is part of the parade at 12.30pm and interview at 3.00pm on Saturday, 29 August.

 

Wish It Was a Coming Out: older gay people in Italy – in pictures

Photographer Melissa Ianniello’s long-term project investigates the double taboos of homosexuality and old age in Italy. The subjects of her intimate projects are a group of gay men and lesbians between 60 and 90 years old, captured as couples or alone in their own homes.

Umberto Davini, 68: Altopascio, Tuscany

Umberto has been a great traveller since he was young – he wanted to explore new realities and travel. In the 1970s he set off for India to meet the mystic Osho; it was the beginning of a very special trip that continues today, within him. He is vegetarian, almost vegan, loves nature, and for some time has dedicated himself to a new passion, photography. He enjoys photographing the stones that have been eroded over time or smoothed by the waterways, and tree trunks pulled on to the beach by waves.

Vittorino Panzani, 76, and William Belli, 69: Trento, Trentino-South Tyrol

Vittorino and William have been together for 47 years. Both came out at a very young age and immediately after started to actively participate in the LGBT movement. Over the years they have never missed the Pride festival and have travelled all over the world. They live in Trento, where they have been working for over 20 years as antiquarians, and were married in a civil union.

Maria Laura Annibali, 74 and Lidia Merlo, 72: Rome, Lazio

Maria and Lidia have known each other for 17 years. Their love blossomed at a mature age, but it struck like a classic bolt of lightning. It was Lidia who won over Maria: on top of a relentless courting full of sweet nothings and poetry, she wrote a dedication to Maria one night on the wall in front of her house: “I am passionately and hopelessly in love with you.” They began dating and soon after became an official couple. They recently married in a civil union.

Victor Palchetti-Beard, 67 and Gianni Manetti, 70: Florence, Tuscany

Victor and Gianni have been a couple for 43 years. Victor came to Italy in 1975 during his university years. Shortly after arriving, he met Gianni through shared friends and it was true love – but as an American he could not stay long in italy. So Gianni’s mother decided to adopt Victor in order to help her son start a family. However, this family cannot be made official with a civil union because the pair are brothers from a legal point of view.

Edda Billi, 86: Rome, Lazio

Edda was born in Follonica, in the coastal area of Maremma. She was a teenager when she fell in love with a older girl who drove a jeep and loved poetry and literature. It was this young woman who introduced Edda to the world of books and culture. The pressure that Edda’s family put on her because of her sexual orientation led her to move to Rome. She has become an emancipated woman: a poet, and activist with the separatist feminist movement. Even today, Edda refers to herself as being in love with women and with life.

Pasquale Ferro, 63: Ischitella, Campania

Pasquale was born in Naples. He had a difficult childhood, full of misery and violence, and he was denied the opportunity to attend school. Despite that he was able to redeem himself over the years. He discovered he was gay and came into contact with the homosexual scene in Naples. He began writing and doing theatre, letting himself get inspired by the street and its stories. In time he became a playwright and also worked as a journalist.

Paolo Melato, 71: Rome, Lazio

Paolo came out as gay when he was 30 years after the break-up of a heterosexual relationship. From that moment he started to see different men, generally younger than him, until he met his greatest love: a doctor. They stayed together for many years, until he was diagnosed with AIDS and died young. They spent many difficult years together: they had to deal with prejudice and fears in a period in which the disease was spreading quickly and little was known about it. Paolo now lives in an apartment with his dog.

Gianni Picciotto, 72: Perugia, Umbria

Gianni is of Sicilian origin. He came out as gay at a young age. He told his family, who welcomed and accepted him thanks to the help of his mother. While still a minor, Gianni met a man named Pino. Once Gianni had turned 18, they set off for Torino in search of work. They had an intense relationship for 52 years until Pino’s death in 2015. On 14 April 2020, Gianni died aged 72.

Giovanni Rodella, 66: Florence, Tuscany

Giovanni was born in the Mantova area but moved to Florence to do his military service once he was old enough. It was during his military conscription that he discovered he was gay. These were years of liberation for him – once he had overcome his feelings of guilt, he was finally able to come out to himself and accept his homosexuality. A professional photographer, Giovanni is an active participant in political and cultural events of the LGBT movement.

Lara Elia, 46, and Lia D’Urso, 64: Nicolosi, Sicily

Lara and Lia met online in 2009, in the field of lesbian feminism activism. Lia is a retired restorer from Catania, and Lara was born in Africa to an Italian father and English mother but was raised in Rome. She is a journalist who deals with scientific dissemination. They live in a small villa in Nicolosi where they divide their lives between their passion for gardening and love for their pets. They are avid activists who never miss Pride.

Anna Palla, 63: Cagliari, Sardinia

Having spent half her life in search of money and success, Anna decided to undertake a spiritual journey. This allowed her to free herself from her old “idols” and led to her own renaming. Today she feels like a free woman. She has found within herself what she was mistakenly looking for elsewhere.

Monica Maestri, 63, and Ornella Brugnara, 72: Trento, Trentino-South Tyrol

Monica and Ornella have been a couple since 1988. They met through mutual friends, even though at first Monica lived in Bologna and Ornella lived in Trento. Although they never had a real coming out experience, they have never tried to hide their relationship. They are fond of going to the mountains and cycling holidays, and love attending lesbian-themed cultural events.

Zeno Zappi, 65, and Massimo Coralli, 56: Imola, Emilia-Romagna

Zeno and Massimo have been together for 12 years. They are very close to their families who have known for a long time that they were gay. They live openly as homosexuals. They are united not only by their love, but also by their shared passion: creating jewellery from recycled material. This led them to open a business; most recently, they have tried to promote their artistic laboratory and their creations through street markets.

Tina Meriggi, 78, and Lorenza Accorsi, 72: Milan, Lombardy

Tina and Lorenza met at the over 40s social group held by ArciLesbica in Milan. At that time, Tina was almost 60 years old. Despite their age, their relationship was full of passion from the very beginning. It was during their first holiday at a nudist campsite in Normandy that they truly fell in love. Three years after they first met, Tina retired; from then on, they started to travel a lot, more than before, seeing the world together. In 2018 they were married in a civil union in Milan.

 

Me and My penis

A former police officer is confessing to being unable to drive without his penis becoming aroused. “Is it the rumble of the road on your balls?” he wonders aloud, while another young man in the group says: “I actually think my dick is in control [of me].” A third guy, in his 30s, describes his first attempt at masturbation: “I kind of hit it from side to side and it felt nice after a while.”

If these sound like the sort of stories you don’t often hear on mainstream TV, then that’s the point. Channel 4’s one-off show Me and My Penis aims to break the taboo around the male sex organ and start a frank conversation about masculinity.

Me and My Penis is on Channel 4 on 31 August.

 

 

Lots of events to celebrate LGBT Pride

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Red button alert – this is a long posting!

Alternative Manchester Pride Festival: 29 – 31 August 2020

This brand new Alternative Manchester Pride Festival promises something for everyone who plans to celebrate Pride at home this August Bank Holiday weekend.

Spanning three days across a spectrum of platforms such as online streams, radio, digital and social media and more, the Alternative Festival will feature exclusive artist performances, arts and culture events, important conversations around activism and history and a whole host of activities and shows to get involved in and enjoy!

The Alternative Manchester Pride Festival will feature free content that can be enjoyed by those who wish to celebrate from the safety of their own living rooms or gardens, or any other room at home!

Out In The City is involved in the virtual parade, a radio show and radio interview. In the parade we are marching for peace with the message loud and clear: no one is free until we are all free, and no one gets left behind. The parade will be diverse, inclusive and representative of the whole community. Out In The City will be celebrating our LGBT+ icons:

Further information can be found on their website here

The LGBT Foundation have put together an amazing series of online events, activities and support to bring the Pride to your home this August Bank Holiday Weekend, 28 – 31 August 2020

They’ve got Bingo, a Café, poetry and loads more.

Further information can be found on their website here

ALT. MCR Pride: 24 – 28 August 2020

A week of virtual activity from Building Equality.

Building Equality Greater Manchester are hosting ALT. MCR Pride to showcase our community through online webinars, exclusive author readings, vigils, positive speakers and competitions, all highlighting the experiences of LGBT+ individuals.

Full line-up of events and sign-up here

 

Migration, Race & Empire: LGBT+ histories tour: Friday, 28 August 2020, 1.30pm – 2.30pm

Join a virtual tour through the People’s History Museum’s galleries and collection, with Prossy Kakooza and Jenny White, to explore how migration has influenced LGBT+ history and the fight for LGBT+ rights.

This tour will include the experiences of black gender variant Victorians in Britain, how British colonialism exported homophobia around the world, issues faced by people seeking sanctuary in Britain on the basis of their sexuality and challenging racism on the gay scene.


Booking required via Eventbrite as there are limited places.

Event will take place on Zoom, joining details will be sent by email

 

Pride at Home UK – Daddy & Dad and Lesbemums: Saturday, 29 August 2020

A non-profit, just-for-fun event, Pride At Home UK encourages LGBTQ people, their families and allies to enjoy a picnic, barbeque or party at home and to share a picture or video on social media on the day with the hashtag #PrideAtHomeUK.

 

Superbia Sunday: Sunday, 30 August 2020, 1.00pm – 6.00pm

Four filmmakers present six brilliant LGBTQ short films for The Superbia Cinema 2020. Watch along with us as we enjoy an hour of original film-making, exploring activist history, memoir, artist explorations, HIV and AIDS, dance, poetry, love, sex, joy and stories of asylum. After the screening, Superbia Project Manager Greg Thorpe will be joined by filmmakers Finley Letchford-Dobbs, Sadé Mica, Joseph Ingham and Siobhan Fahey to discuss their work.

 

Oral Histories Interviews – ongoing throughout August
The LGBT Foundation Archive Team are currently recording oral histories interviews with people from LGBT communities who are over 50 and live or have a connection to Greater Manchester. More information and how to book here.

 

Drag Yourself Out (at home!)

Mondays at 11am throughout August

Drag Yourself Out, a journey into drag for gay, bi and trans men over 50 in Greater Manchester is starting up again in a version you can enjoy from your own home via video calls. New participants welcome! More information and booking information here

 

You Brought Your Own Light, a new book of transgender portraits by Portrait of Britain 2019 winner, photographer Allie Crewe.

A book of transgender portraiture showcasing the work of award-winning photographer Allie Crewe has been published by Axis Projects Publishing this July 2020.

You Brought Your Own Light is produced by Alan J Ward and brings together 26 of Allie’s revealing Transgender portraits, including the image of Grace, a doctor, which won the BJP Portrait of Britain 2019.

You Brought Your Own Light now brings these portraits together in a book, continuing Allie’s journey as a political artist exploring social issues of the day using photography to give a voice to those often-denied power; becoming a campaigner by giving visibility to other people’s narratives.

Allie Crewe says: “Stories of transformation fascinate me, especially when they are women’s stories. I love to photograph teenagers, trans women, women surviving illness or escaping violent marriages. It is not just the physical changes that draw me but how our internal, emotional lives change too. To take a person’s image is, in part, self-portrait. I am representing women, exploring their narratives and interweaving them with my own.”

Allie has worked with her friend and collaborator Olivia Fisher, who has written the words in the book.

You can watch a film about Allie Crewe and how she works here https://vimeo.com/431524286

When will lockdown end?

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Greater Manchester is facing a third week under local lockdown restrictions that prevent people from different households mixing indoors.

While infection rates in some areas continue to rise, other areas have managed to drive rates down since the measures were introduced at the end of July.

The last time the government reviewed its local lockdown measures was on 13 August, according to the Department of Health. At that time health officials decided that the current restrictions would remain in place for now.

But when is the next review scheduled for and when could the restrictions be lifted?

According to legislation enforcing the new rules, the government is obliged to carry out a review into the restrictions every two weeks, which would mean another review would have to take place by 27 August.

However, announcing the continuation of the rules last week, health minister Edward Argar suggested there may be another review sooner.

He said: “We will review the measures again next week as part of our ongoing surveillance and monitoring of the latest data.”

What all this means for Out In The City is that we have to wait for an announcement before we can hold an indoor meeting.

Lockdown, Mind Yer ‘Ed and HIV Step Up Scheme

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As the next review of the Greater Manchester “lockdown” is due on 19 August, it appears that Out In The City cannot meet until at least Wednesday, 26 August. If anything changes, I will be in touch.

Out In The City meeting before lockdown

 

Talking About My Generation have interviewed a few of us for their mental health series: Mind Yer ‘Ed.MIND YER ‘ED: DISENGAGING FROM SOCIAL MEDIA AND KEEPING BUSY HELPED MY MENTAL HEALTH

Jean Friend, from Chadderton shares her experiences of adapting to the ‘new normal’ over the last few months and how she tries to keep her spirits up.

“Myself and my partner created a social bubble as soon as we could. I asked her this weekend what had helped to keep her mentally well. Cheekily she said: ‘Well I have not had you pecking my head’!

But her serious comments were very similar to mine. We both agreed keeping busy was important. I have done lots of jobs around the house that have needed doing for ages. Not having the usual demands from others has helped us both to relax.

I would describe myself as a depressive (probably not the best word to use) – by that, I mean I get down easily. Since leaving work 11 years ago I have been able to keep a watch on this and slow, if not stop, the downward spiral.

Unfortunately, this weekend I wasn’t quick enough. A particular political issue has been upsetting me and I engaged in a discussion on social media that sent me down the spiral. Disengaging from social media is a good idea and avoiding negative news reports also.

When I am down the advice of getting some exercise really doesn’t work for me. Just getting out of the door is almost impossible. So having a reason such as meeting a friend or going for my prescription has helped. Before we made our social bubble we would cycle to a meeting place and go for a socially distanced ride. We were lucky with the weather so finding green spaces was a great help.

I am lucky enough to have a garden and lockdown has given me the chance to grow more this year.”

MIND YER ‘ED: I’VE BEEN TRYING NEW THINGS AND REDISCOVERING OLD TALENTS DURING LOCKDOWN

Pauline Smith from Radcliffe talks about her experiences living alone during the pandemic and all the new things she’s been trying while in lockdown.

“I went into lockdown on 12 March before the Government made an announcement, which in my opinion, if you’d followed any type of news outside of the UK, we should have gone into lockdown at the end of February.

I was at a Talking About My Generation reporters’ meeting, where there were only four of us. I realised then that now was the time to actually stop coming into Manchester. Some of the social groups that I’m in didn’t shut down till the end of March, but I’d already made my decision.

I had to think about how I was going to survive this, as it wasn’t looking to be a short-term thing.

In the first instance, I had someone else do my shopping, but then I realised this was crazy. I live alone so if I kept this up, I knew I wouldn’t actually see another human being for months, so I started going out.

I’m at Lidl for about 8 o’clock in the morning when they open and I’m very fortunate that the market hall is literally on the other side of Lidl. During the trip, I’ve at least spoken to the woman on the cash aisle and to the butcher, the egg man, and the greengrocer lady. So, I still get human contact and I’m getting really high-quality produce.

I’ve missed human contact in the sense of being able to share space with friends and family and being able to hug people. Other than giving somebody cash at the local market, that’s the closest I’ve come to touching another human being since 11 March.

One of the ways I’m surviving lockdown is by looking at new things. Even though I’m 72, I’m still open to learning new things. I’ve found that the more interests you’ve got, the easier it is to cope.

I’ve discovered I could write poetry again, which I hadn’t done since I was a teenager. Since the start of lockdown, I’ve written 11 or 12 poems. Some were written for particular people and have not been published. I’ve written some prose pieces as well. I find it emotionally satisfying that I’m writing things that people are going to enjoy.

Also, because I couldn’t get all my ingredients when shopping at Lidl, I got creative when cooking. I looked online and found recipes that I could tweak and turn into something else. I found that with very simple recipes I could eat magically in a sense. I enjoyed that, because I enjoy the relaxation of cooking, my creativity is really coming out.

The other thing that has really helped was calling friends and them calling me. I decided to start calling people that I may not know well, but I knew were struggling. I then signed up for Brew Buddies where I also call vulnerable LGBT people.

My son has been very supportive too. When everyone was all doom and gloom, he’d be calling me twice a week and would often Facetime me as well. He said: ‘You’re much more relaxed because you’re not racing to meetings, sometimes five times a week.’

I don’t get so down by the whole thing that I think it’s overwhelming. I think a lot of people have really struggled with lockdown because it’s really affected the way that they live and in a sense, I’m fortunate because I’ve lived chunks of my life before where I’ve been alone. Although I live alone, I wouldn’t classify myself as lonely.

It’s very much the old “is the glass half full or half empty”. My attitude now at this stage is even if the glass is empty, I can fill it up, if it’s halfway, then it’s halfway full and if it’s a really nice glass of wine, then I’m not just going to gulp it down. You’ve got to really experience the lows to appreciate the ups.

I haven’t thought as far ahead as to when lockdown is over but if you’d ask me what I’d look forward to the most, it’d be that I’d be able to mingle again.

To be able to see my friends and family, hug each other and be able to look in their eyes rather than look at them on a screen. To go on public transport, go to a concert or a play or sit in a restaurant where every table is full and the waiters are not wearing masks.  When or if that’ll ever happen, I don’t know.”

MIND YER ‘ED: I SUPPORT OTHERS BUT I NEEDED SOME HELP TOO

Tony Openshaw from Chorlton, shared his experience of living through lockdown alone.

“I’ve found lockdown really difficult, the reason being I live on my own. Having contact with people was something I’d taken for granted. I have a very active social life having retired five years ago. It has been really isolating and I felt very lonely.

I’m involved in a group in Manchester called Out In The City which is a social / support group for members of the LGBT+ community who are over 50. Two years ago I started running the group as a volunteer but we’ve had to stop meeting up because of lockdown but we’ve been keeping in contact.

I accepted the offer from Age UK to have a regular phone call so that a volunteer could ring me every week to give me some support. That was really nice because I have ended up giving support to a lot of others but I have to think about myself as well … it is what I needed.

All my neighbours would come out and clap for the NHS. I’ve lived on my street for 37 years but I’ve got to know them better over lockdown than I ever did before. The lady over the road even popped her number through the door to see if I needed any shopping or help which was nice. After we stopped clapping weekly we started dancing.

Every Thursday now we go out at 8.00pm, with up to 50 people sometimes and we have music and dance! We’ve been doing that for about eight weeks now. It’s good exercise and it’s nice to get to know the neighbours. I also found out that our street has its own Facebook page and they’re taking song requests on there!

I’ve been making some podcasts, I started about a year and a half ago with Sonder Radio who encouraged me to start making podcasts. They know I like reggae and dub so I’ve made about eleven of those, two of those in lockdown. It’s like being a DJ but I give anecdotes and facts too. I did one specifically for Black Lives Matter. I really wanted to support it but I was a bit worried about going to the demonstrations in Manchester, however, I did go to the local ones in Chorlton.

There’s another group called Manchester Cares who put older and younger people together for social reasons but they’ve also had to stop meeting so I’ve also been making some podcasts for them, which I’ve called Tony’s Coffee Time Picks. I do it all at home on my laptop.

I used to volunteer for George House Trust but that has been suspended because of the virus. I really miss that. For ten years I was supporting someone who was HIV positive and blind. I would take him out every week for social activities. Unfortunately, he died when he was 50, which was emotional for me having known him for ten years. Instead of being involved with somebody else on that level, I started to do driving for them, taking people to appointments. I used to do it once a week and I found it really rewarding and I miss doing that.

What the lockdown has affected is my mental health and my emotions, not seeing people. As soon as restrictions were eased I wanted to go and see people in the park, social distancing, and wearing masks. I’ve been to the pub and to a restaurant so I was quite willing to throw myself back into it as soon as possible, still taking all of the precautions. I wanted to throw myself back into life again because that’s what I’ve missed.

I was in a relationship for 31 years and my partner died with cancer when he was 54 and that was nine years ago. Had he still been alive we would have been together 40 years this year. Being gay meant that my family ostracised me totally. I have a younger sister who I’m close to and she’s very supportive but she lives in Slovakia and I only see her once a year. That’s why I’m on my own and I feel quite isolated because I don’t have the support of family, just friends that I’ve made.

It does feel like groundhog day where every day is the same so I’ve just tried to contact people when I can. I try and have a positive outlook, I feel like I’m a positive person.

A lot of people lean on me because I’m the organiser of Out in City. So I have tried to be a backbone to everyone in that group and help them. But I recognise that I need it as well – you can’t just give out all the time. I recognise that I needed help as well.”

 

HIVe Step-Up Scheme 

The Passionate about Sexual Health (PaSH) Partnership is a collaboration between BHA for Equality, George House Trust and the LGBT Foundation. The PaSH Partnership delivers a comprehensive programme of interventions to meet the changing needs of people newly diagnosed with HIV, living longer term with HIV or at greatest risk of acquiring HIV.

The sexual health team have launched a step-up scheme, which offers a range of exclusive interventions to Greater Manchester residents at risk of contracting HIV. They will be providing one to one sessions based on safer sex goal plans, providing HIV and STI testing, offering condoms and lube, and hosting a range of exciting workshops to offer rounded and holistic support to build confidence and promote sexual wellbeing.

The scheme opened from the 1 August 2020 and an individual can self-refer via the website: http://www.sorthiv.org.uk/self-referral

To be eligible, an individual must be 18+ and a resident of Greater Manchester and meet at least one of the following criteria:

  • Diagnosed with repeat urethral / rectal STI infections
  • Reporting unprotected sex with multiple / casual partners / group sex
  • Been prescribed PEP in the last year
  • Need support in adhering to a PrEP regime which protects them in combination with their regular clinic monitoring and prescription for PrEP.
  • Use chems with sex
  • Sell sex / have transactional sex / pay for sex
  • Having sex with someone living with HIV with a detectable viral load.

HIV: Let’s sort this together.

 

 

Local lockdown continues – so no meetings at present

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The local lockdown which affects Greater Manchester and other areas started at midnight, 30 July 2020.

The government is legally obliged to formally review the arrangements by 19 August but had said it would look at the numbers on 6 August.

On 7 August, Health Secretary Matt Hancock announced that Greater Manchester’s local lockdown will continue.

Under the new lockdown restrictions, pubs and restaurants will remain open but two households will no longer be allowed to mix indoors. The restriction extends to cafes, shops, places of worship, community centres, leisure and entertainment venues.

People living in the lockdown zones can still continue to meet in outdoor public spaces in groups of up to six people. They will still be required to socially distance.

We will have to review the situation week by week, but don’t worry – we will be back: