Elizabeth Gaskell House

Elizabeth Gaskell’s House in Manchester is the former home of the famous author and her family.

Her novels include Mary Barton, Cranford, North and South and Wives and Daughters and are enjoyed on television, stage and radio.

Her husband, William Gaskell, was an Unitarian minister at Cross Street Chapel, charity worker and pioneer in the education of the working class. He was himself a writer and poet, and acted as the longest-serving Chair of the Portico Library from 1849 to his death in 1884.

Their beautifully restored family home has spectacular period rooms for visitors to enjoy. The House, combined with the story of Elizabeth Gaskell as a writer, public figure and private person, provides a unique and engaging experience.

We browsed the books in William Gaskell’s study and sat where Elizabeth sat to write, overlooking her beloved garden. The majority of the furniture and objects can be touched and used, providing a very rare hands-on experience.

We stood on the same doorstep as many of Elizabeth’s famous friends, such as Charles Dickens and Charlotte Bronte.

After a fascinating visit we went down into the Servants’ Hall where the Tea Room and shop are located. We enjoyed freshly brewed tea and coffee and delicious cake served in style on vintage china.

More photos can be seen here.

• Important notice: our tickets are valid for 12 months until 14 January 2026. If anyone wishes to visit again within the next year, there will be no charge, providing you make it clear when booking that this is a revisit and take the original ticket (which I will retain).

No one should be left lonely this winter

(reprinted from Diva Magazine)

Ella Gauci learns more about how isolation can affect queer older people at this time of the year.

Nestled in the cosy interior of The Eel Pie pub in Twickenham, something rather remarkable is happening in front of my eyes. With tea and cake dotted around, a group of older LGBTQIA people have gathered here today for a very special celebration: the anniversary of the Rainbow Café, their monthly meet-up group.

Carol Horne, wellbeing services manager at Age UK Richmond, asks if anyone has any words of reflection. Vito, one of the founding members, rouses the group with a powerful speech about the power of connecting on shared history and culture. As applause erupts around her, I try to control the tears welling up in my eyes.

The Rainbow Café is more than just a monthly get-together. It is all part of Age UK Richmond’s scheme to spearhead the fight for introducing better initiatives targeting older LGBTQIA people across the country. Especially in winter, the Rainbow Café offers everything, from a friendly face to a warm place to stay for a few hours.

Last year Age UK found that 1.4 million people over the age of 65 would be eating their Christmas dinner alone.  While typically associated with jolly family memories, tinsel and trays of stuffing, Christmas – and winter on the whole – is often the hardest time of year for LGBTQIA older people.

John, another founding member of the Rainbow Café, has felt this loneliness acutely. Despite the smile on his face, he admits that winter can be hard for people without family or children. “The people from this generation have face a lot of stigma,” Aydee Burke, communications and community fundraising manager at Age UK Richmond, tells me. “Now, they’re at the age where it feels more normal (to be LGBTQIA), but it’s still a massive step for them to (come to us) because of what they lived through. It used to be a crime to be LGBTQIA. Things are changing now, and we have to lead the way on that.”

For many older LGBTQIA people this Christmas, the holiday itself may feel like an exclusive club they don’t have access to. Kate, a volunteer at LGBT Foundation’s Pride In Ageing programme, started working with their team in Manchester to offer her advice to others about how to live as a single older LGBTQIA person.

“There’s great sadness when Christmas comes along,” Kate explains. “It’s like we can’t be ourselves anymore. Once you’re out, it’s very hard to go back into the closet. It brings home to you how painful it is to be rejected by family. One of the ironies is that Christmas is a time to celebrate the birth of somebody who was all-inclusive. Commercial Christmas is geared towards heterosexual families. If you don’t have close friends, it brings it home to you just how lonely it can be.”

The Pride In Ageing programme offers support, events and advice for older LGBTQIA people. Helping to connect and amplify their voices is a vital part of this work.

“A lot of older LGBTQIA people are not out where they’re living”, Lawrie Roberts, LGBT Foundation’s Pride In Ageing manager, tells me. “That can be extremely isolating. Some people may have experienced discrimination where they live, especially those in care homes. It can be a really challenging time for people.”

And it’s not just isolation that LGBTQIA older people have to contend with. Heating, transport and a lack of LGBTQIA-focused events during winter can leave people feeling trapped inside their homes. “It’s like the gay world closes down for the winter”, Kate laments. “Everything just slows down and stops.”

But LGBT Foundation is determined to change that. They recently hosted a talent show, teaming up their Pride In Ageing scheme with a local youth group. Out of the performers on the day, the youngest was14, and the oldest was 84.

Their helpline is also open every day of the year, including Christmas, offering a lifeline for people who may not have anyone to talk to this year. Across the country, older LGBTQIA people are coming together to combat loneliness. But they shouldn’t have to do it alone. In the same ways that they fought for the rights we now enjoy, it is our duty to fight for their right to connection, warmth, joy and – in the case of the Rainbow Café – a lot of cake.

1853 Restaurant

1853 will reopen from Wednesday 22 January 2025 for lunch service, with bookings available going forwards every Wednesday, Thursday and Friday during term time from 12.00pm to 12.45pm.

The lunchtime menu comprises of small plates, of classic and contemporary dishes, delicious desserts and modern starters. The menu changes on a regular basis.

To make a lunch reservation, please email 1853@tmc.ac.uk

1853 Restaurant – Evening Events for 2025

Guest Chef Event – Dnata Catering (First Class Airline Catering)

Wednesday 22 January – Arrive for 6.00pm to dine for 6.15pm – £30.00 per head

Afternoon Tea with 1853

Wednesday 29 January – Arrive for 4.45pm to dine for 5.00pm – £14.00 per head

1853 theme event – Indian Cuisine Night

Wednesday 5 March – Arrive for 6.00pm to dine for 6.15pm – £18.53 per head

1853 theme event – Easter Themed Night

Wednesday 19 March – Arrive for 6.00pm to dine for 6.15pm – £18.53 per head

Afternoon Tea with 1853

Wednesday 26 March – Arrive for 4.45pm to dine for 5.00pm – £14.00 per head

Guest Chef Event – Dave Ashton and Zoe Wesson – Hilton Manchester

Wednesday 14 May – Arrive for 6.00pm to dine for 6.15pm – £30.00 per head

Afternoon Tea with 1853

Wednesday 21 May – Arrive for 4.45pm to dine for 5.00pm – £14.00 per head

1853 theme event – French Cuisine

Wednesday 4 June – Arrive for 6.00pm to dine for 6.15pm – £18.53 per head

1853 theme event – Mexican Night

Wednesday 11 June – Arrive for 6.00pm to dine for 6.15pm – £18.53 per head

To book your table email 1853@tmc.ac.uk

Free Special Showcase Concert at The Bridgewater Hall

Young musicians and singers from the Greater Manchester and Blackburn with Darwen Music Hub present a special concert performance of Neil Brand’s evocative ‘Wind In The Willows’, and Malcolm Arnold’s ‘Peterloo Overture’ (Choral Version), featuring new words written by Sir Tim Rice.

Over 150 young musicians will be joined by actor David Threlfall as Badger, Musical Director Stephen Threlfall, and actors from Liverpool Institute of Performing Arts.

Date: Sunday, 16 February 2025

Doors open: 2.00pm

Performance: 3.00pm – 5.00pm

Venue: The Bridgewater Hall, Lower Mosley Street, Manchester M2 3WS

To book your free tickets to this event, please contact us here

Thanks to Bruce for the following write up:

DO NOT MISS THIS MARVELLOUS EXPERIENCE!!

Today, friends from Out In The City visited the magnificent Aviva Studios to see the exhibition, David Hockney: Bigger & Closer (not smaller & further away). With huge state-of-the-art projections and a revolutionary sound system you are invited to experience the world through David Hockney’s eyes.

After opening at Lightroom in London to rave reviews, this is the first time the show has travelled outside of the capital. Get an insight into the legendary artist’s process as you journey through six different chapters of his work, seeing the room around you light up and change.

With a unique personal commentary by David himself and an original score by composer Nico Muhly, the show, directed by Mark Grimmer of 59 Productions, offers a holistic artistic narrative. The rousing music brought a tear to my eye at one point, I was so moved by the experience, being a big fan of his work.

Hockney’s lifelong fascination with media and technology takes centre stage. The exhibition showcases his experimental approach, from innovative photography techniques to iPad drawings, revealing how he continually pushes artistic boundaries.

The experience is divided into six themed chapters, each offering a window into his creative process. From his Los Angeles period to recent works in Normandy, visitors will witness the artist’s journey through landscapes, perspectives and artistic mediums.

What truly sets this show apart is its immersive nature. The four towering walls are just the beginning—the floor becomes part of the canvas, making it a full sensory feast. Each segment surprised and delighted me in equal measure, combining Hockney’s work with his narration in a way that was both playful and profound. I often laughed out loud or marvelled at his boundless creativity and childlike wonder.

More photos can be seen here.

A Snapshot of HIV Through a ‘Mancunian’ Gay Lens

As paramedics treated a man in a car crash, a spotlight was shone on a need for change.

In 1986, two ambulance workers in Oldham were embroiled in a so-called ‘Aids scare’ after treating a man involved in a car crash.

Emergency measures were put into place for the paramedics after the man was confirmed to be living with HIV – with the vehicle locked away and withdrawn from duty, equipment quarantined and the two men undergoing ‘safety checks’.

It was later reported in the Manchester Evening News that the scare was ‘over’, with the staff members’ chances of catching the disease described as ‘remote’. But that coverage lingered on in the minds of many Mancunians. And it lingered alongside more-extreme examples like the John Hurt-narrated advert featuring toppling oversized tombstones warning people not to die of ignorance.

Some eight years earlier, Paul Fairweather, a prominent LGBT+ and HIV activist, had just moved to Manchester to work for the Campaign for Homosexual Equality (CHE), which was the main gay rights organisation in the city at the time.

Paul, who awarded an MBE in the King’s New Year Honours List in 2023, was also at the forefront of the local response to the growing HIV pandemic in Manchester and across the North West helping to organise meetings, writing articles in the gay press, like Mancunian Gay magazine, and lobbying for much-needed support services for those diagnosed.

Paul was one of the six people who founded the Manchester AIDSLine in 1985 – one of only a handful of services across the entire country at the time that provided peer support, advice and mentorship.

“In those early days, it was very unclear how HIV was transmitted,” Paul, now 68, explains. “There was quite a lot of ignorance and fear, and a lot of people wrongly thought in the mid-80s that it only affected gay men.”

Data from the UK Health Security Agency (UKHSA) found that 6,008 people were diagnosed with HIV across England in 2023. Nearly half (49%) of all new diagnoses first made in England were among people exposed through heterosexual contact.

In 1990, five years later after its foundation, the AIDSline was renamed as the George House Trust – a name that remains today. The charity has continued its efforts to help those living with HIV and to help shift narratives ever since. It will celebrate its 40th anniversary in 2025.

To mark its landmark year, an exhibition is currently being held at the Kimpton Clocktower Hotel’s The Refuge – A Snapshot of HIV Through a ‘Mancunian’ Gay Lens. The exhibition features a number of articles, posters and documents from the mid-80s from within Paul’s personal archive – including that story of the ambulance workers.

The exhibition also features sensationalised mainstream media coverage, community responses from the Mancunian Gay magazine of the mid-1980s, and posters promoting the charity’s vital services and support. There is also the 2009 Manchester Evening News article from when Paul, then a councillor for Harpurhey, revealed his own HIV diagnosis on stage at a vigil.

“I kept all of the stuff going back to the 70s when I moved here,” Paul said. “It’s fascinating looking back at things, it reminds me of the times that were there and that were happening really.

“I’d forgotten how, even with the health service, how people were so ignorant and scared. Even health care professionals didn’t realise the extent of the situation and were part of some of the mass concerns.

“The story about the ambulance workers – they were taking someone living with HIV to hospital and they found out he had AIDS. They quarantined the ambulance because they thought the ambulance would somehow give people AIDS.”

The exhibition, which runs until the end of January, has been in place at the Oxford Road hotel since December and has already received a good response. Paul said: “People have been wandering past to stop and look at it – it’s a chance for us to share the work we do with people who might not be aware.”

Three years ago, the government launched its first ever HIV Action Plan for England which set an ambition between 2019 and 2025 to reduce the number of HIV diagnoses – including an 80% reduction in new HIV infections in England.

Considering that the figure of those first diagnosed in England in 2023 was 2,810, a figure nearly the same as in 2019, we are clearly off-track to achieve the 2025 goal, and therefore the 2030 goal.

Whilst Professor Susan Hopkins, the Chief Medical Advisor at the UK Health Security Agency, said its target is unlikely to be reached next year, the 2030 target of zero new HIV transmissions was still achievable.

Speaking about what still needs to be done, Paul said: “We do a lot of work with young people in school. They’re much more aware of the LGBTQ+ community and HIV to the point that sometimes they know more than their parents or grandparents do.

“I still think we need to raise more general awareness around the messaging of U=U, which means that anybody on effective HIV treatment with an undetectable viral load cannot pass HIV on. There are also people out there who might be benefitting from getting PrEP, which reduces the risk of getting HIV, who aren’t aware of it.”

And Paul says there are plenty more things in the works to celebrate the 40th anniversary of George House Trust in 2025, as well as campaigns to continue the important work they do. “I still can’t believe it’s 40 years,” he says of its foundations.

“40 years isn’t that long really, it isn’t a massive amount of time and there is still lots of work to be done.”

You can find more information about HIV and the work that George House Trust does here. ‘A Snapshot of HIV Through a ‘Mancunian’ Gay Lens’ is at Kimpton Clocktower Hotel until the end of January.

“With Love, Mr Gay” – Written and performed by Josh Val Martin – Part Of “Fringe Highlights”

Monday, 20 January – 7.30pm – 9.30pm and Tuesday 21 January – 7.30pm – 9.30pm

The Kings Arms, 11 Bloom Street, Salford M3 6AN

Pay What You Can from £4 to £20 + fees

“Dear Mr. Gay, if you move my bin again, I will get an ex-mercenary to destroy you … from flat 2.”

This (real) letter was blue-tacked to my flat’s front door, and thus sparked a neighbourhood feud over both my sexuality, and the placement of the blue bins.

Determined to find peace, and not let the conflict consume me, I sought advice and interviewed experts: a dog trainer, a historian, a Middle East peace negotiator and, of course, my Auntie Clare.

With Love, Mr Gay is my true story, featuring cabaret, comedy, interviews and showtunes, as I’m accompanied by the personification of a laughing Buddha statue from B&M, who acts as my unlikely spiritual guide.

Join us on our heartfelt and hilarious mission to find fabulous ways of end deeply personal battles – even when the idea of peace seems impossible.

Buy tickets here.

Can You Help?

My name is Jason D’Suvio and I am a 48 year old gay man studying a Bsc in Psychology at Arden University in Manchester.

I am undertaking my final major researching project and will be completing it on Gay Men and their use of Gay Dating Apps with a focus on the experience of users and the pros and cons they may have identified.

Part of my project involves recruiting participants that are aged over 55 for a brief interview about their experience with face to face or online. The project will have full ethical approval from the university and a Participant information sheet, consent form and debrief form will all be provided.

The aim of the study is to help identify the benefits an drawbacks of these apps and the importance of having social opportunities for older gay men in the community.

If you think you could enquire amongst your members if any one would be happy to participate it would be a great help. Thanks, Jason
Contact us here and we will forward information.

25th Anniversary of the Lifting of the LGBT Ban in the Armed Forces

On 12 January 2000, the UK government announced that it would lift the ban on gay people serving in the Armed Forces.  

It followed a lengthy legal battle and a case heard before the European Court of Human Rights. While gay men and women had served in many conflicts, being gay in the British military was illegal and could have resulted in instant dismissal or a possible jail term.  

Gay service members were often stripped of medals and many were dismissed from the military solely on the grounds of their sexuality. 

The Imperial War Museum North will celebrate the anniversary of the lifting of the ban on gay service members.

In collaboration with Fighting with Pride, hear the personal stories of two LGBT+ veterans impacted by the ban, and learn about the long-lasting impact it had on their lives and how they campaigned to have it lifted. 

This is a free event in the Liebeskind Learning Space, but with limited availability, on Sunday 12 January 2025 from 11.00am to 12.00pm and from 2.00pm to 3.00pm.

Please reserve your tickets at the information desk on the day. 

Pentagon settles with US LGBT+ veterans discharged under discriminatory policies

The United States Defence Department has reached a settlement with veterans who were discharged under discriminatory policies like “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,” potentially allowing more than 30,000 to receive benefits.

Pending approval by a federal judge, the settlement agreement will update discharge papers for US LGBT+ veterans who were separated from the military, removing references to their sexual orientation, while allowing those who were denied honourable discharges the right to seek an immediate review.

The agreement stems from federal civil rights litigation, Farrell v. Department of Defence, filed in August 2023 by a group of LGBT+ veterans.

“Coming from a family with a long history of military service, I was beyond proud to enlist in 1985 to contribute to my country,” said Sherrill Farrell, a US Navy veteran who was the lead plaintiff in the case.

“When I was discharged because of my sexual orientation, I felt that my country was telling me that my service was not valuable – that I was ‘less than’ because of who I loved,” she said. “Today, I am once again proud to have served my country by standing up for veterans like myself, and ensuring our honour is recognised.”

The lawsuit came as the Pentagon under the Biden-Harris administration worked to streamline the process by which veterans harmed by “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” – and anti-LGBT+ discriminatory policies that came before – can seek redress.

Last summer, President Joe Biden issued pardons to thousands of service members convicted under the Uniform Code of Military Justice’s former Article 125, which criminalised sodomy, and was rewritten in 2013 to proscribe only forcible acts.

New Union

The New Union is located on the corner of Princess Street and Canal Street in Manchester, adjacent to the Rochdale Canal.

The Union Hotel was built in 1865 and the name refers to the union of countries in the Commonwealth at that time. 

The building’s stained glass windows depict those countries including Canada, New Zealand, Australia, India and New Foundland.

It has been a gay venue for as long as anyone can remember and in 1965, the landlord was briefly sent to prison for “outraging public decency” for running a public house of ill repute.

The name was changed to the New Union in the 1970s and the pub was extended in the mid 1990s to cater for the increasing number of visitors to the Gay Village.

Roger’s story

Roger was referred by his GP to the LGBTQ+ group, Silver Pride, in Didcot, South Oxfordshire. He told about his life and experience:

“I told my parents I was LGBT back in the late 80s. Because they were of a certain generation, they didn’t really accept it. So, after a while it wasn’t really spoken about. I’m not going to criticise them; they were very good parents. it’s just a shame that they didn’t really accept me as me.

I feel sort of like people say, ‘oh, you’ve come out’ and you do come out, but you have to keep doing that because you keep on meeting new people, you see. But it’s a very private thing – you don’t have to come out. People don’t say, oh hello, I’m straight or heterosexual or whatever do they?

I was a member of a very, very conservative church in Swindon, which I left in 2019. I was 21 when I joined. Because I was only young, I thought if I joined the church, it’d stop me being gay. Obviously, that’s not the case! And I left because of how they treated gay and trans people – very, very sad.

I moved back to Wantage and joined my local church and although they don’t do same-sex marriages, they have changed a lot. I have told my vicar and she seems quite positive.

About a year ago I visited my GP and said that I was LGBT and they told me about a Social Prescriber at the surgery who could help me find other people to chat to. I think it was Mandy who wrote to me back then and I’ve been going along to the Silver Pride group since February 2024.

I like going along to the group; they’re very friendly. It’s Kate and Gaynor and they make you feel so welcome, you can relax and don’t have to hide anything. They’re just very nice people. There’s a man who goes with his sister and it’s nice seeing her supporting him to go along, you know. So yeah, I quite enjoy going.

I went to Pride in Oxford in the summer. It was very good. I have to travel for anything LGBT because I’m in a small rural community; it is isolating at times. But I enjoy going to London – I’ve got a few friends there and there’s a higher percentage of gay people in London than there would be around here.

I also go to Bible study at a local church and attend ‘Open Table’, an LGBT+ service at Reading Minister Church. I’ve always been a churchgoer. It’s always been a very, very big, big thing for me. Although a lot of LGBT people are not into church, because of how we’ve been treated over the years. There’s this one guy at Silver Pride, I think he was brought up Catholic but he’s anti-church. Almost all my socialising is church, church, church and this Silver Pride group is the only thing that isn’t church related.

I have a very quiet life. I like seeing to my garden. I go to the market and see my extended family and have a few trips to London or Oxford. I think I’m so privileged to live where I grew up and I enjoy life very, very much. I’m very, very blessed.”

Out In the City’s “Look Back at 2024“

Meetings & Trips

1,210 people attended 60 meetings.

1,691 people attended 103 trips including:

32 trips to concerts at the Bridgewater Hall (attended by 327 people);

3 coach trips to Jodrell Bank, Samlesbury Hall and Maurice Dobson Museum (attended by 76 people); and

Christmas Meal (attended by 73 people).

Website

660 articles published over 99 blog posts. We have 414 subscribers.

87,992 website views by 11,816 visitors from 97 different countries.

Rainbow Lottery

£1,864 raised for Out In The City.

£2,150 cash and 84 extra tickets won by 35 people.

Media

Various members have been interviewed and contributed as follows:

• Centre for Ageing Better organised an exhibition “See and Be Seen” in London.
• Interviewed by ITV (and ITVX website) for video about Canal Street.
• Interviewed by Amy Prescott, researcher at Brunel University, London for a project on “Socially Inclusive Ageing Across the Lifecourse”.
• Interviewed by Bianca from Centre for Ageing Better on what can be done to improve the lives of older people.
• Interviewed by The Times about coming out in later life.
• Barclays Bank showed the video made in 2023 (for Pride in Ageing) in all Barclays Bank branches during month of June.
• Six members of Out In The City were filmed in connection with the Over 50s Digital Café and the Derek Jarman Pocket Park by Pride in Ageing at the LGBT Foundation.
• Interviewed in connection with HIV activism for Manchester Pride. The film was launched at the Candlelit Vigil.
• Rainbow Lottery shone a spotlight on Out In The City whilst revealing the week’s winning numbers.
• Interviewed by Matthew Walker who is making a documentary about Section 28.
• Interviewed by Mike Sweeney on BBC Radio Manchester on “Is Greater Manchester a good place to grow old in?”.
• Interviewed by Manchester Central Library regarding Out In The City activities which will form part of a podcast.
• Interviewed by Emma Goswell on BBC Radio Manchester on “Pride in Ageing”.
• Interviewed by ITV (Good Morning Britain) outside Church House to commemorate 60 years since the meeting on 7 October 1964 that began the modern movement for LGBT equality.
• Interviewed on Broadcast Radio (Wythenshawe FM) about Out In The City.
• Interviewed by Joely Bell, student journalist at the University of Salford to chat about lesbian life in 1990s Manchester for a feature article.
• Article about Out In The City published in the Age Friendly newsletter.
• Scott Hale from the Institute of Human Viralogy at the University of Maryland, Baltimore, USA was looking for short written accounts by people who have been affected by HIV or use PrEP as prevention for a World AIDS Day event in Maryland. Two contributions were included.
• Norman Goodman’s story is featured in Age UK’s report “You are not alone in feeling lonely: Loneliness in later life”.
• Recorded a podcast with Heart Radio to be broadcast in the new year.
• Interviewed for The Sun Online about loneliness and older people.
• We are currently working with 2 students doing research – Poppy Sullivan at Manchester Metropolitan University (photography project) and Jason D’Suvio at Arden University (Gay Men over 55 and Dating Apps).

Laughter, Independence, Kindness and Support

Immeasurable.

“Life of Bi” – Podcast Episode 37

In this episode of the extremely fun and thought-provoking podcast “Life of Bi” (available on all podcast platforms) Monica Pearl discusses some thoughts on Queer Friendship.

Veteran professor and HIV/AIDS activist Dr Monica Pearl is in conversation with Mary Higgins and Ell Potter about her experiences with ACT UP and the unique and under-studied intricacies of queer friendship.

A perfect antidote and/or accompaniment to the festive season when the emphasis is on “family time”.

Quentin Crisp-mas

I hadn’t realised previously that Quentin Crisp was born on Christmas Day, 25 December in 1908.

While travelling on a bus recently, I was called “an old queen” as I accidentally jostled a whippersnapper while taking my seat. At first, I was offended, but as I started to spit out a response, I thought of a certain Old Queen of England and instead my retort was: “Oh, sweetie dear, you simply have no idea…”.

Quentin Crisp was a British writer who really gained the world’s attention after the 1975 airing of a television adaption of his 1968 memoir, “The Naked Civil Servant”.

He was a flamboyant, fey man who wore makeup and painted his nails. He worked as a rent boy as a youth, and then spent three decades making money as a figure model for art classes. The interviews he gave about his unusual life attracted increasing public curiosity and he was soon in demand for interviews where he told tales of his highly individual views on social manners and the cultivation of style. He was also frequently harassed, insulted, and beaten.

Born Denis Charles Pratt, he left home to lead a life that was not based on anything more than completely being his newly invented persona, “Quentin Crisp”. Not only did he have an attention-getting appearance, his expressions of his queerness attracted a great deal of curiosity among his fellow humans.

He started to speak about his life and his views in his ever changing solo stage show, which was very popular in Britain and the USA.

Many critics claimed that Crisp didn’t do anything to actually help members of the LGBTQ community, but he was always a brave supporter of freedom in gender and sexual expression. Throughout his long life, he remained highly independent, but he continued to share his beliefs and observations through his books, stories, quips, and stage and film performances. The way he lived his life advocated that a positive outlook and dedication would help one succeed in life.

Crisp was Oscar Wilde’s perfect progeny, with calculated caustic confabulations, open queerness, and witty, winning obstinate opinions toward anything conventional. He caused a bit of a stir in the traditional Britain of the 1950s, 1960s, and 1970s. In 1981, he moved to New York City and brought along his wit and eccentricity. Crisp completely charmed the city, and he became the very essence of the modern urban bohemian.

Crisp resided in a single room in the East Village from 1977 to 1997. He remained fiercely independent and unpredictable to the end. He caused controversy and confusion in the LGBTQ community by jokingly calling HIV/AIDS “a fad”. Still, he was always in demand from journalists seeking a juicy soundbite, and throughout the 1990s, his commentary was still requested. You could consistently count on Crisp to say something quotable.

During his two decades in Manhattan, Crisp wrote eleven books, plus contributed reviews and magazine articles, and acted in several films, including playing a touching and dignified Elizabeth I in Sally Ann Potter’s luscious gender-bending “Orlando” (1992), loosely based on Virginia Woolf’s 1928 novel “Orlando: A Biography” starring the always daring Tilda Swinton in the title role.

While filming “The Bride” (1985), he became friends with Sting who was playing Dr Frankenstein. Crisp was the inspiration and subject of Sting’s beautifully brilliant song “An Englishman In New York” (1988). In 1986, Sting had visited Crisp in his Bowery apartment and was told over dinner, and in the three days that followed, what life had been like for an out-of-the-closet, fey, queer man in the very homophobic Britain of the 1920s to1960s. Of living in New York City, Crisp told Sting: “I looked forward to receiving my naturalisation papers so that I could commit a crime and not be deported.” When Sting asked him what kind of crime, Crisp explained: “Something glamorous, non-violent, with a dash of style. Crime is so rarely glamorous these days.” Sting was both shocked and fascinated. His song includes these lyrics: “It takes a man to suffer ignorance and smile. Be yourself no matter what they say.” The black-and-white video for the song was directed by David Fincher, and features scenes of Sting and Crisp. At the end of the video, as the song fades, Crisp says: “If I have an ambition other than a desire to be a chronic invalid, it would be to meet everybody in the world before I die … and I’m not doing badly.”

The kids won’t understand this, but Crisp’s New York telephone number was listed in the phone book. He felt it was vital that he speak with anyone who called. Crisp: “If you don’t have your name in the phone book, you’re stuck with your friends. How will you ever enlarge your horizons?” His openness to strangers meant accepting dinner invitations from almost anyone. He expected that the host to pay for dinner, but Crisp felt he earned it by regaling his terrific, sometime terrifying tales.

Liechtenstein marriage equality law takes effect

A law that extends marriage rights to same-sex couples in Liechtenstein took effect on 1 January.

Lawmakers in the small European country that borders Switzerland and Austria approved a marriage equality bill in May 2024. Liechtenstein is the last country in which German is the primary language to extend marriage rights to same-sex couples.

Same-sex couples have been able to legally marry in Switzerland and Austria since 2022 and 2019 respectively. Same-sex marriage has been legal in Germany since 2017. Liechtenstein’s first-ever Pride event took place in 2022.

Christmas Meal

This year 73 members of Out In The City enjoyed a meal at the 1853 Restaurant.

As the capacity of the restaurant is only 50 people we had two Christmas meals! We took over the restaurant on Thursday with the balance attending on Friday where there were other members of the public present.

The 1853 is a training restaurant run by students studying Hospitality and Catering. In every aspect the service was excellent, the atmosphere was friendly and relaxed and the food was of high quality.

We shall definitely be returning next year.

More photos can be seen here.

Henry Gerber – 100 years ago

Did you know the documented fight for LGBT+ equality in America started decades before the 1969 Stonewall Uprising?

While the groundbreaking protest blazed a trail for present day LGBT+ rights, the movement can be traced back to 1924, when a Chicago man named Henry Gerber formed the Society for Human Rights.

This month marks 100 years since Gerber launched what’s largely regarded as the country’s first-ever gay rights group. On 10 December 1924 he published a newsletter, Friendship and Freedom, for distribution among its small membership.

Unfortunately, the organisation was short lived. Within months Gerber and fellow members of the group were arrested on obscenity charges. Though the charges were eventually dropped, the legal fees bankrupted Gerber and the scandal cost him his job forcing the group to disband.

Only two issues of Friendship and Freedom were printed and no copies are known to survive today, however a review described the first issue as including a Walt Whitman poem, an essay on Oscar Wilde and an article on “self-control.”

Gerber died just over fifty years ago on 31 December 1972, at the age of 80, living long enough to see the Stonewall Uprising and the start of a new era of LGBT+ rights activism.

Rainbow Lottery Super Draw!

Our Christmas blockbuster Super Draw is BACK this festive season, and we’re spreading some holiday cheer! Your support of Out In The City means you’re already in with a chance to win a whopping £3,000 Christmas cash bonus on Saturday 21 December – but you can always top up your tickets for extra chances to win!

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Your regular weekly tickets already enter you into the draw to win this fantastic prize – but did you know you can now top-up your tickets, just for the Super Draw weeks!? And just imagine what you could do with this huge prize …

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LOUD Cabaret – Thursday, 19 December 8.00pm

LOUD Cabaret is back with another fabulous line-up of LGBTQ+ talent!

LOUD showcases the most fabulous of rising stars from across Bury and beyond. Expect tantalising musicians, side-splitting comedians, captivating dancers and a line-up of talented additions for your delight on a monthly basis. Thursdays have never been so exciting!

December’s event will feature Alexa Vox, Tequila Thirst, and Josh Jones. Your host for the evening will be Mancunian writer, actor and activist Nathaniel J Hall, Artistic Director of Dibby Theatre.

Tickets: £11 standard / £9 subsidised / £13 supporters (inc fees)

The Box @ The Met, Market Street, Bury BL9 0BW